"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Snap out of it!

Roober

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Alright, just curious on some feedback here and curious how you guys snap out of a funk? I have tried the gym (which usually helps), relaxation, TV, videgames, etc. However, sometimes, I just get this unshakeable funk. It doesn't last long, maybe a couple hours tops, but it just doesn't feel right. Consequently, it sometimes happens when I have my boys and I may get short with them, Not good.

What do you do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MoreThanSmooth

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Normally when I feel like that it's because I'm over stressed from work or I need to get some more sleep. Sometimes just having a beer can clear that stressed feeling too.

Recently, dorky as it sounds, I've taken up painting models to relax in the evenings. It's just totally chill, trains hand-eye coordination and your artistic skills and you get something cool to look at when finished. Finding it a lot more relaxing than video games because although you have to concentrate it's not the same kind of concentration as an insanely fast paced game of Battlefield or whatever where you feel tired after playing a round.
 
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