"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Snap-close?

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I've heard this term thrown around by self-proclaimed alphas/red-pillers. I don't social media, so someone is going to have to explain this to me.

The **** is a snap-close? Is that getting a girl's snapchat? I really don't know what snapchat is or what it's for, so no idea if I'm missing some untapped market. If that's what it is, can someone explain why this would be a closing? What's so special about getting a girl's snapchat ID? And is this, in any god-forsaken way, better than a number-close?

Enlighten me to this annoying plugged ****ing generation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What's so special about snapchat is that the pictures and videos you receive on it get deleted after the first time you view them, can't be saved, and pictures have a short view timer. You should understand what that means.
 

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What's so special about snapchat is that the pictures and videos you receive on it get deleted after the first time you view them, can't be saved, and pictures have a short view timer. You should understand what that means.
Nudes?
 

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Okay, I don't know if I'm being super-dense or something. How does this affect me if I'm trying to f-close? What am I not understanding?
Her anti-slut defense is lower on snapchat than other medias because there's no evidence, making it easier for her to show off, and showing themselves off (along with starting to think about sex while doing it) in a way they know/feel is slvtty tends to turn women on because it's bad/forbidden (just like the excitement of cheating turns them on), creating a positive feedback loop that makes it easier to f-close than on other media.
 

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KIK is the other big messaging app. Both of them make it easier to block people than a phone number and are a little more anonymous, thus making a girl who doesn't know you more likely to share her info.
 

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Her anti-slut defense is lower on snapchat than other medias because there's no evidence, making it easier for her to show off, and showing themselves off (along with starting to think about sex while doing it) in a way they know/feel is slvtty tends to turn women on because it's bad/forbidden (just like the excitement of cheating turns them on), creating a positive feedback loop that makes it easier to f-close than on other media.
Thanks for explaining. The disconnect is that I don't use social media, so I didn't understand that there was a difference.

How do you connect with people? I mean, if I do a "snap" (am I using this verbiage correctly?), who's going to see it? Will anyone see it? If I'm "following" a girl, and she "snaps" something, doesn't everyone that's following her get to see it? How is this beneficial to me?
KIK is the other big messaging app. Both of them make it easier to block people than a phone number and are a little more anonymous, thus making a girl who doesn't know you more likely to share her info.
I just downloaded this one two days ago. Haven't used it yet.
 

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I didn't know "snap-closing" was a thing but I do ask for a girls snap, when I'm below or at 50% interest level, rather than a phone number.

Snapchat is fun to build rapport on in my opinion. Women love taking pictures and posting it in their story. Very easy to slide into her messages.

But for serious inquiries, the traditional phone number is always best.

And yes I've sent and received nudes numerous times.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How do you connect with people? I mean, if I do a "snap" (am I using this verbiage correctly?), who's going to see it? Will anyone see it? If I'm "following" a girl, and she "snaps" something, doesn't everyone that's following her get to see it? How is this beneficial to me?
- Don't know, I only use(d) snapchat (like other social media) when girls wanted me to talk to them there
- Snaps can be sent to specific people, a group (I think), or like a "status update" (in the latter case you can view them unlimited until they're removed or updated iirc)
- I never bothered with the status updates, so you'll have to ask someone else about that. All I know is snapchat is a slvt's best friend, and I love slvts
 

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I didn't know "snap-closing" was a thing but I do ask for a girls snap, when I'm below or at 50% interest level, rather than a phone number.

Snapchat is fun to build rapport on in my opinion. Women love taking pictures and posting it in their story. Very easy to slide into her messages.
This makes sense to me. Thought I was going crazy or something. Thanks for explaining it simply.
But for serious inquiries, the traditional phone number is always best.
Thank God. I knew those idiots were idiots.
- Don't know, I only use(d) snapchat (like other social media) when girls wanted me to talk to them there
- Snaps can be sent to specific people, a group (I think), or like a "status update" (in the latter case you can view them unlimited until they're removed or updated iirc)
- I never bothered with the status updates, so you'll have to ask someone else about that. All I know is snapchat is a slvt's best friend, and I love slvts
Got it, thanks again. And who doesn't love slvts :cool:
 
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