"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Smoothest way to react?

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Okay, so I've been in this situation a few times and still haven't gotten it right. Exactly what is the best way to handle a chick calling off a date? For example, this girl I've known for about a month and I had something scheduled for tomorrow since Monday, but today when I got some I saw a curt little "can't go tomorrow. sorry." left on my AOL. She wasn't online and hasn't been since, and unfortunately I don't have her phone number (you'd think after a month, but once I got her s/n she was online so much it usually didn't matter....). I know she has a high interest level in me (she has a boyfriend, in fact, but agreed to this date and when I asked about limits, she told me "whatever he doesn't know won't hurt him"). The legitness of the reason can vary, of course, so I guess a few different ideas would be good. I've tried being angry before when a girl has done this, and that didn't really work, and I tried simply being like, "Oh, okay. Let's try again soon," but I think I come off as too much of a doormat with that. Thoughts?

Edit: I should probably mention that this is purely for FWB/FB purposes, not a relationship.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yea I have a thought. I hope she's just serving as a f uck buddy, cuz she will sscrew you over the same way she screwed her BF over (figuratively of course).

now to your question:

Er, she doesn't seem to have much potential like I said. So screw her and move on. She is not relationship material. Hopefully you don't have oneitis or anything ( I hope ). So just blow it off, next her, and find other girls worthy of the great Ballistik.
 

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Whoa, yeah, shoulda made that clear, this is purely for FWB/FB purposes only. I don't look for relationships with cheaters. Period.

And (not to attack you, just because I'd rather not read more of it) if you're gonna tell me to "screw her and move on," well, I ain't gonna finish reading your sentence. If I was gonna do that, I wouldn't have needed to start a thread.
 

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yeah, don't worry at all about the boy friend. he'll be cool with it.
infact, you should prob call him and let him know, cause he won't mind.

who cares about his feelings?

if i were in the same situation as you, i'd tell her that she's a ****en ***** and to get some respect for herself. and i'd tell him she's a ***** and to move on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quest, I think ya mighta misunderstood my question.....
 
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