"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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smoking weed=confidence loss

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I have recently given up smoking weed and within a week i feel more confident much more. Has anyone else had experience with this? or is it just me?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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pot holds me back with women more than anything else. congrats on deciding to quit for yourself.
 
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I really don't think that the pot itself caused you to lose confidence. I think societies attitude towards pot made you feel like it's unacceptable, so once you stopped you felt more like a member of society.
 
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This should be stickied. Pot is the polar opposite of alcohol. Alcohol can take your confidence to new heights, and pot will make it fall lower than it's ever been before. HOWEVER. If you mix pot with alcohol in the right amounts, you can get the best of both worlds.
 
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really don't think that the pot itself caused you to lose confidence. I think societies attitude towards pot made you feel like it's unacceptable, so once you stopped you felt more like a member of society.
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Couldn't disagree more. The weed is COMPLETELY To blame. Its just a fact that THC has a very real potential to make one extremely paranoid and anti-social. Or on a lesser degree, just lazy.

It doesn't happen to everyone, but it definatly happened to me. Basically if something is slowing you down, essentially handicapping you towards reaching your goal... WHY CONTINUE DOING IT?????


Good idea quitting
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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My DJ friend smokes weed all the time and he uses it as a social bond with many chicks in our group. It's a social activity after all.
 
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