Smoking hot lifeguard - Need your take

[mr. kennedy]

I swim indoors once a week. From January to May of this year, every time I went to swim, there was this smoking hot HB9 lifeguard. At each occasion, all I said was hi with a smile when I came and bye with a smile when I left. (It's extremely difficult to chat with them as they are sitting on 10 feet high chairs and must constantly focus on the people in the pool).

From May to the beginning of November I didn't go swimming. Last week was my first appearance in almost 6 months and lo and behold the smoking hot lifeguard is working. I said my usual hi with a smile and jumped in the pool.

20 minutes in, during a rotation of lifeguards, I see her waiting for me at the end of the lane. She then proceeds to give me a swimming tip on how to use my arms.

As far as I know, the lifeguards aren't there to give lessons, they are there to make sure no one drowns. It's the first time I noticed a lifeguard going out of their way to talk to a swimmer.

My philosophy has always been if a woman goes out of her way to talk to you, she is interested. I'm 34 and she's most likely 21 or 22. That's what's making me unsure about her interest level. That being said, I am by far the guy with the best physique there. The other swimmers are either children, much older or skinny. I'm 6 feet with blue eyes and an athletic body.

What's everyone's take on this? Is she into me or am I looking too much into this and she was simply advising me on something I was potentially doing wrong?

 

[Poon King]

You're over thinking. Either make a move.. or don't. But stop analyzing it so much.

The game is very simple. If you find a woman sexually attractive, you approach her and try to sleep with her. It has been that simple since the first humans walked the earth and its still that simple in 2015.

I never stop to ask myself (or others) if a woman is interested in me. I approach women I want to f*ck and find out.

Ask her when her shift is over, then flirt with her and close.

 

[Maximus Rex]

there was this smoking hot HB9 lifeguard.

Do you have pictures of said lifeguard? No pictures, no 9.

 

[YawataNoKami]

Lifeguards are like bartenders , treat them accordingly.

 

[grayclif]

Maybe your stroke sucks and she couldn't look at bad swimming up and down the pool anymore, so she gave you a few pointers.

You like her and you saw her from January to May once a week and didn't ask her out? If there is one this site teaches is to not do sh!t like that. Approach her, get her number, make a date. No need for a poll. C'mon man!.

 

[l__i__l]

You will never know. Regret is a ***** isn't it?
Next time you see her ask her for the digits.

 

[Yewki]

You like her and you saw her from January to May once a week and didn't ask her out? If there is one this site teaches is to not do sh!t like that. Approach her, get her number, make a date. No need for a poll. C'mon man!.

Yep, the fact he didn't make a move in the months leading up to this is a massive fail. To add insult to injury, when she finally did talk to him he still didn't make a move...

OP, stop waiting for things to happen and make things happen already.

 

[mr. kennedy]

I will most likely see her tomorrow. Now that she approached, I have no choice to initiate tomorrow.

I will have to keep it short as she is working and has to keep her focus on the people in the pool. I'll start off by saying thanks for the tip and ask if she gives any swimming class. I'll determine by her answer how interested she is. If she gives even a small hint of wanting to give me a personal class, I'll jump all over that by taking her number. If she keeps her answer short and general, I'll move on.

 

[fastlife]

I will most likely see her tomorrow. Now that she approached, I have no choice to initiate tomorrow.

I will have to keep it short as she is working and has to keep her focus on the people in the pool. I'll start off by saying thanks for the tip and ask if she gives any swimming class. I'll determine by her answer how interested she is. If she gives even a small hint of wanting to give me a personal class, I'll jump all over that by taking her number. If she keeps her answer short and general, I'll move on.

Why is it up to her to carry the interaction? You're putting her in the position of power, bro. Assume she likes you until she gives you definite indication that she doesn't or becomes a time sink.

Personally I'd go up to her and say something dumb like, "So I've been working on my stroke game. Want to meet up tonight and try it out?" Either she'll laugh but even if she doesn't you can always backtrack to something like, "Ok, maybe I'm moving too fast. Drinks?" Even if things go terrible at least she's 10 ft up in the air and you can just say hi like you've done every day for the past year.

 

[mr. kennedy]

I'm not sure going directly for the number after a 10 second interaction is the best approach. How many girls (especially hot ones) would give it out so quick? I'm going to have to build rapport (displaying a sense of humour, showing I can maintain a convo and am not a freak, etc) for at least a few minutes before she just hands over her digits. I just have to find a way to get her in a spot where she isn't distracted to interact with her for that long.

The few times in my life I went straight for the number, it ended as a failure. It's way too soon.

 

[mr. kennedy]

Ok, this is my strategy.

I'll thank her for the tip and then say "I only see you once every 6 months, if you ever want to grab a drink sometime let me know. I'll be right there (i'll point to the pool)."

 

[Tictac]

I'm not sure going directly for the number after a 10 second interaction is the best approach. How many girls (especially hot ones) would give it out so quick? I'm going to have to build rapport (displaying a sense of humour, showing I can maintain a convo and am not a freak, etc) for at least a few minutes before she just hands over her digits. I just have to find a way to get her in a spot where she isn't distracted to interact with her for that long.

The few times in my life I went straight for the number, it ended as a failure. It's way too soon.

By the time you are done 'building rapport', she'll be on to someone else. You are using all these attempted tactics (at which you will fail) to cover for your lack of confidence. Women can smell lack of confidence a mile away.

You don't have to demonstrate, build rapport, display, maintain or find a way to do a damned thing. All you've got to do is smile, talk to her and ask her out.

Don't be a p*ssy and ask for her number - ask her out.

 

[grayclif]

Good luck. Whatever you decide to is up to you. I would adhere to the advice given and not your strategy. Regardless, please report back here with what happened good or bad.

 

[Alvafe]

You're over thinking. Either make a move.. or don't. But stop analyzing it so much.

The game is very simple. If you find a woman sexually attractive, you approach her and try to sleep with her. It has been that simple since the first humans walked the earth and its still that simple in 2015.

I never stop to ask myself (or others) if a woman is interested in me. I approach women I want to f*ck and find out.

Ask her when her shift is over, then flirt with her and close.

this is all you need really, don't care about the whole build rapport, if she cared enough to look at you when you was swimming to give you pointers you should have cared enough to ask for her number if you want anything, if you want a damn excuse you can always say hey do you have any extra tips on swimming? how about some drinks later and we can talk.

 

[Yewki]

I will have to keep it short as she is working and has to keep her focus on the people in the pool.

This is just a bullsh*t excuse you've used to justify not approaching her all this time, and you know it

Talk to her. If she actually is too busy watching the indoor pool guess what? She'll let you know. No harm, no foul.

 

[Tictac]

I'm going to have to build rapport (displaying a sense of humour, showing I can maintain a convo and am not a freak, etc) for at least a few minutes before she just hands over her digits. I just have to find a way to get her in a spot where she isn't distracted to interact with her for that long.

I love that you're going to find the time to do all this (just for a phone number) with a woman that is "sitting on 10 feet high chairs and must constantly focus on the people in the pool)."

You want to fail.

 

[jcjetty]

Bro, one of the most dangerous assumptions in the world is there is always next time! Truth is you don't know if you will ever see he again! Take a couple deep breaths and just do it! Tomorrow may never come so all you have is this moment! Make the best of it!

 

[jcjetty]

I love that you're going to find the time to do all this (just for a phone number) with a woman that is "sitting on 10 feet high chairs and must constantly focus on the people in the pool)."

You want to fail.

and fortune favors the brave!

 

[Yewki]

I love that you're going to find the time to do all this (just for a phone number) with a woman that is "sitting on 10 feet high chairs and must constantly focus on the people in the pool)."

You want to fail.

He sees her on a pedestal, literally

 

[jcjetty]

Its only too soon if she thinks you feel that way! Here is a good examole . I keep a pen a a pad of post its in my jacket! I see some interest when talking to a random girl I pull the pen and pad out and hand it to her. Whats this is the most usual answer. Its a pen and pad of paper silly! OK what's it for? Its for your phone number I'd like to chat with you for hours but if I don't leave in 2 minutes I'll miss an appointment! Try it! I'd love to hear other techniques to fast track her number.

I'm not sure going directly for the number after a 10 second interaction is the best approach. How many girls (especially hot ones) would give it out so quick? I'm going to have to build rapport (displaying a sense of humour, showing I can maintain a convo and am not a freak, etc) for at least a few minutes before she just hands over her digits. I just have to find a way to get her in a spot where she isn't distracted to interact with her for that long.

The few times in my life I went straight for the number, it ended as a failure. It's way too soon.