"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Smiling too much?

Jon55

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I've often wondered how much smiling is too much? I know a smile is like a beam of sunshine, but if you smile too much you look like an uber dork.

I do pretty well with girls and I notice I smile a lot, not like all the dam time but whenever Im either being sarcastic, telling a joke, or generally making her laugh. Basically whenever she's laughing I smile. Sound like too much? Just right? Not enough (doubted)?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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silenthill

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Dude I'm the king of smiling. Like literally if anyone looks at me i'll smile at them. I remember one time a cop pulled me over and I was smiling though trying not to and hes like "whats so funny" I can't count the ammount of people that have told me I smile to much. But its usually a positive reaction. Its better than looking like a hard ass all the time.
 

Obsidian

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Dude I'm the king of smiling
i smile a lot, too, but that doesn't mean it's a good thing. I think the op may have a point.
 

woods

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Its definately better than not smiling enough, though.
 

young_gun

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Hell yeah, smile as much as you can. Think about the coolest guys you know. They ALL smile a lot. I don't think there's too much thing as smiling too much. I don't know where this "stand in the corner and look tough" thing came from, but a lot of guys do it. Oh well, more chicks for us! :-D
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jason88

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I wish I had this problem. For me, it's a constant struggle to smile...atleast more often.
 

Serialized3

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One of the most natural players I know smiles a lot when he's with girls. So it can't hurt your game.
 

WhiteSoledShoes

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If the smile is natural, then it will give off the positive energy behind it. Smiling is contagious, and says nothing but you are confident and comfortable in your current position (again thats if it's NATURAL).
 
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