"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Smiling & eye contact with strangers

BongDuy

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I usually don't make eye contact until a split-second before I pass the person. While this occasionally works (in that they will smile back), I often feel that I am being way too timid, and that I am exhibiting a lack of confidence by avoiding them until the last minute, and then suddenly looking at them might just seem weird.

On the other hand, I feel like staring at the person the whole time they are in view would be creepy. There must be a happy medium. How do I find it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ArcBound

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Why are you so concerned with eye contact? If you feel like looking at her then look at her, if you don't then don't.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155965

"Start thinking with your penis. Your penis doesn't have time for all the bull**** head games you play with yourself. When you see a hot girl, your penis knows exactly what to do. Your penis doesn't give a flying **** about how unattractive you are or how you might feel if you get rejected. Your penis just wants you to SHUT THE **** UP AND GET IN HER, YOU MOTHER****ER!!! SO QUIT PHILOSOPHIZING, GET YOUR ASS OVER THERE, AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR ****!!!!

For men, picking up women should be business as usual. Sex is a maintenance call, just like getting thirsty or having to take a piss. Do you map out a gameplan before taking a piss? NO YOU ****FACE!!!! YOU JUST ****ING DO IT!!!! QUIT WASTING TIME AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR ****!!!!"
 

alexloramer

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I'm more the type that I walk around with my head up and smile. I'm almost the opposite of you because I think it might be best if I reel that in a little bit. I come off as too friendly which is associated with having no "edge"
 

Lexington

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You should make a conscious effort to keep your head up and to not shy away from eye contact. I was always the kind of person that avoided eye contact. Being a person that pursues eye contact instead of hiding from it tremendously increases your presence.

Just look up and look right into their eyes. Give them a slight smile or a nod of the head. At least make them look away. Do this for a few days and you will feel a boost in your confidence. All of a sudden you will notice that people actually pay more attention to you.
 
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