Giantsfan88
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How do you smile less and talk more aka not being a *****?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Smiling=death
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Slash Dolo
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I'm not with the idea that smiling is bad, or beta. How you smile though is different. Smirking and giving evil grins will turn a girl on like a faucet if you're doing everything else right.
Not smiling and asking how the weather is is worse than smiling like a pre-teen at a Good Charlotte concert and busting her chops and displaying confidence.
Here's a tip: don't focus on her. Focus on saying things that YOU would find amusing. If you're TRYING to make her laugh, you're doing it wrong. Say things that you know would make you laugh. This is what I do and never, ever have a problem conversing with an attractive woman and making her chuckle.
Not smiling and asking how the weather is is worse than smiling like a pre-teen at a Good Charlotte concert and busting her chops and displaying confidence.
Here's a tip: don't focus on her. Focus on saying things that YOU would find amusing. If you're TRYING to make her laugh, you're doing it wrong. Say things that you know would make you laugh. This is what I do and never, ever have a problem conversing with an attractive woman and making her chuckle.
Giantsfan88
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Yeah the past two times I saw this girl (who I used to date) I smiled. One time I stopped and said hey and the other time I smiled and made eye contact as I was leaving after telling her what I've been up to. You guys think it's too late for me to charm her?bigneil said:
thelonewolflegend
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How do you charm a girl and how do i know whats funny to me? Usually things i find funny are stupid
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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zekko said:
Lmao at this no smiling stuff...you are going to stop smiling because you think it turns girls off? The problem isn't smiling it's obviously n your mentality...
Do what you want when you want ufbthey dont like it then that's their problem not yours...
If you have confidence, it really doesn't matter what you do...
Do what you want when you want ufbthey dont like it then that's their problem not yours...
If you have confidence, it really doesn't matter what you do...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.