Giantsfan88
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How do you smile less and talk more aka not being a *****?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Smiling=death
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Slash Dolo
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I'm not with the idea that smiling is bad, or beta. How you smile though is different. Smirking and giving evil grins will turn a girl on like a faucet if you're doing everything else right.
Not smiling and asking how the weather is is worse than smiling like a pre-teen at a Good Charlotte concert and busting her chops and displaying confidence.
Here's a tip: don't focus on her. Focus on saying things that YOU would find amusing. If you're TRYING to make her laugh, you're doing it wrong. Say things that you know would make you laugh. This is what I do and never, ever have a problem conversing with an attractive woman and making her chuckle.
Not smiling and asking how the weather is is worse than smiling like a pre-teen at a Good Charlotte concert and busting her chops and displaying confidence.
Here's a tip: don't focus on her. Focus on saying things that YOU would find amusing. If you're TRYING to make her laugh, you're doing it wrong. Say things that you know would make you laugh. This is what I do and never, ever have a problem conversing with an attractive woman and making her chuckle.
Giantsfan88
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Yeah the past two times I saw this girl (who I used to date) I smiled. One time I stopped and said hey and the other time I smiled and made eye contact as I was leaving after telling her what I've been up to. You guys think it's too late for me to charm her?bigneil said:
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How do you charm a girl and how do i know whats funny to me? Usually things i find funny are stupid
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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zekko said:
Lmao at this no smiling stuff...you are going to stop smiling because you think it turns girls off? The problem isn't smiling it's obviously n your mentality...
Do what you want when you want ufbthey dont like it then that's their problem not yours...
If you have confidence, it really doesn't matter what you do...
Do what you want when you want ufbthey dont like it then that's their problem not yours...
If you have confidence, it really doesn't matter what you do...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.