"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Smart, or Petty?

WesCottII

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Recently, my Aunt and her husband got divorced. She's in real trouble now, he, as an accountant has tied up all the finances and she has no money, nor a house.

Now, they were reasonably well off, on around £100 000/$200 000 a year, but towards the end of the relationship, she started getting plastic surgery...going out to parties, not coming home, texting like a teenager, at 52 years old. He's a smart guy and figured out something was going off, so took all the finances.

I don't like the guy but he took care of her 4 kids when they got together, and raised them with a father figure. Her desire to "move up the social ladder" has landed her in hot water.

Opinions? was he right in tying up all the money, or would you just have walked? Tried to fix it?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sav

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he was right in doing what he did...

harsh? perhaps...

but it was her that changed her behavior.. not him.. he was just responding to her actions... good for him... i would have done the same...
 

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He was right. Sounds like she'd waste it anyway.
 

Mr. Wise

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All due respect for you and your aunt but the guy did what he had to do - no ifs, ands or buts. Cougars can be as vicious as the kitties too - sometimes moreso as this case suggests. However, the law protects these women - it's called ALIMONY. The law says, she's entitled to the same "way of life" and half his assets. That is of course unless she signed a prenuptual agreement. In that case, she dug her own grave.
 

Obsidian

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Let the stupid hor die in a gutter. How the f*ck could you actually feel sorry for that lady? Are you forgetting all of your own experiences with "women"? Damn, real men aren't supposed to be so easily swayed by sympathy. Seriously, put the b1tch completely out of your mind. She isn't worth your worry.

heh, Your uncle sounds like he's probably one of the guys who reads this forum.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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