"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Smart chic

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Hey guys im kinda nu to this joint so imma give it a try. Ok there's this gal i met at the mall, she was shoppin for clothes.
I watched her every movements as she hopped from store to store tryna find wat she lykd.
So i finally got tha balls to step up to her and introduced myself,
as usual i gave her my name and she did the same.
She was really mature bout the whole thang she neva gave me attitude at the same tym she neva really showed me that she was impressed.

I didnt want to blow it so i told her that i wanted to gve her space to do her thang and if i kud holla at her sometym,
to which she sed "oh that means you want my nmbr"
I sed yeah an she askd me why she shud gve me her nmbr coz she ddnt huk up her digits 2 strangers, howeva i managed to convince her.

Im now callin her but this gal is totally smart i mean she put up lyk an anti mackin shield, damn she wont show me any signs of interest tho i knw she does coz she wud not have given me her nmbr ryt.
How do i destroy her defences and outsmart her coz im runnin out of ideas.
Pleeeeease help.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by bmack
Hey guys im kinda nu to this joint so imma give it a try. Ok there's this gal i met at the mall, she was shoppin for clothes.
I watched her every movements as she hopped from store to store tryna find wat she lykd.
So i finally got tha balls to step up to her and introduced myself,
as usual i gave her my name and she did the same.
She was really mature bout the whole thang she neva gave me attitude at the same tym she neva really showed me that she was impressed.

I didnt want to blow it so i told her that i wanted to gve her space to do her thang and if i kud holla at her sometym,
to which she sed "oh that means you want my nmbr"
I sed yeah an she askd me why she shud gve me her nmbr coz she ddnt huk up her digits 2 strangers, howeva i managed to convince her.

Im now callin her but this gal is totally smart i mean she put up lyk an anti mackin shield, damn she wont show me any signs of interest tho i knw she does coz she wud not have given me her nmbr ryt.
How do i destroy her defences and outsmart her coz im runnin out of ideas.
Pleeeeease help.

Learn to write like a human being and try again.

~Sloopy
 

The Nice Guy is Gone

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Originally posted by bmack
Hey guys im kinda nu to this joint so imma give it a try. Ok there's this gal i met at the mall, she was shoppin for clothes.
I watched her every movements as she hopped from store to store tryna find wat she lykd.
So i finally got tha balls to step up to her and introduced myself,
as usual i gave her my name and she did the same.
She was really mature bout the whole thang she neva gave me attitude at the same tym she neva really showed me that she was impressed.

I didnt want to blow it so i told her that i wanted to gve her space to do her thang and if i kud holla at her sometym,
to which she sed "oh that means you want my nmbr"
I sed yeah an she askd me why she shud gve me her nmbr coz she ddnt huk up her digits 2 strangers, howeva i managed to convince her.

Im now callin her but this gal is totally smart i mean she put up lyk an anti mackin shield, damn she wont show me any signs of interest tho i knw she does coz she wud not have given me her nmbr ryt.
How do i destroy her defences and outsmart her coz im runnin out of ideas.
Pleeeeease help.
It says your 22, so why do you write like a 2 year old?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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He is new to this forum so he has decided to give it a chance. He saw this gir shopping in the mall which he decided to follow and see how she was like. He finally got the corauge to talk to her and gave his name and so did she. She did not show any signs of discomfert with his approach and she was calm about the whole thing. He did not want to ruin the progress he had made with her so he decided to let go about her business. He then ask her if he could give her a call some time. In which she replied "oh that means you need my number" He responded by saying yes and she ask him why should she give him her number because she does not give it out to strangers but he manage to convince to give him her number. He now talk to her but she is really good at covering her interest level in him. He knows that she has interest in him because she gave him her number. How can he get her to show clear signs of interest because he is running out of ideas.
 

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Originally posted by NewHere
He is new to this forum so he has decided to give it a chance. He saw this gir shopping in the mall which he decided to follow and see how she was like. He finally got the corauge to talk to her and gave his name and so did she. She did not show any signs of discomfert with his approach and she was calm about the whole thing. He did not want to ruin the progress he had made with her so he decided to let go about her business. He then ask her if he could give her a call some time. In which she replied "oh that means you need my number" He responded by saying yes and she ask him why should she give him her number because she does not give it out to strangers but he manage to convince to give him her number. He now talk to her but she is really good at covering her interest level in him. He knows that she has interest in him because she gave him her number. How can he get her to show clear signs of interest because he is running out of ideas.

It doesn't really matter whether she shows clear signs of interest or not. She probably just has her defenses up right now. She isn't comfortable with you yet. You should just assume that underneath all that, she wants you. If she doesn't, she will show you by avoiding you or blowing you off. Until then, assume that all systems are go. So you got her number. Now you set up a date. Have coffee or lunch or something. Use this time to build her interest level and make her feel comfortable with you. This will help you move on to the next step.

~Sloopy
 

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Thanks

Thanks guys, i sincerely accept the positive criticism.
A special thanks to my new personal translator "jus kiddin" thanks alot whoever you are.
Thanks sloopy, ill ask her out this weekend.
 

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Re: Thanks

Originally posted by bmack
Thanks guys, i sincerely accept the positive criticism.
A special thanks to my new personal translator "jus kiddin" thanks alot whoever you are.
Thanks sloopy, ill ask her out this weekend.
good luck, slugger!

~Vibe~ (formally known as Sloopy)
 

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Hey no problem bmack just trying to help out. Hopefully everything works out for you and you improve yourself. Remember you come first then money comes second then girls should come third :D .
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Newhere that was mad cool what you did for that guy.
 

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Originally posted by arlanda
The way you write ... not cool :rolleyes:
stfu guys it wasnt hard to read at all.
 

RaWBLooD

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Re: Re: Smart chic

Originally posted by The Nice Guy is Gone
It says your 22, so why do you write like a 2 year old?
wow talk about jumpin on the bandwagon.
 

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Thanks again

Wasup guys. Yeah Vibe you were right man she likes me like i thought and for real she was just tryna get used to me thats all, i definitely entered her comfortable zone and she's now gettin to like me. You deserve a medal.

Yo Rawblood, thanks for havin my back you're tha man keep the fire burnin.

Same to newhere if it wasnt for you i dont think i'd have faced that girl anymore. We need more positive guys like you, to build not to break coz thats what we're all here for right?
 

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Originally posted by NewHere
Hey no problem bmack just trying to help out. Hopefully everything works out for you and you improve yourself. Remember you come first then money comes second then girls should come third :D .

I don't know about you guy. But I would take the girl b4 the money if they showed up in that order
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The Nice Guy is Gone

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Re: Re: Re: Smart chic

Originally posted by RaWBLooD
wow talk about jumpin on the bandwagon.
I didn't read the replies before I posted that, thanks for trying to assume that I follow the crowd though.
 

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i think it should be urself/close family members, then best/good/close friends, then moral/consccience, then maybe the girl next

money is important too but it shouldn't be in the ladder, it's not something we are born for, it's just meant to be a life accesory that make our lives and those arond us better
 

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mmm... lets get back to the topic at hand will we?

yo bmack! have yu read the don juan book? if yu haven't then i suggest yu download a copy pronto. coz it talks all about the aftermath of gettin a hoez # and how to handle the situation when yu call her. Also, don't call her frequently so's yu'll keep her guessing

Good Luck!
 
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