"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Small town / Small house

faustus

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Hey,

I live in a small as Hell town, moving to a smaller one - there are hardly any buses and few HBs around. And I live in a small house with my parents and two baby brothers!

Just wondering if any other DJs who have lived in small-time surroundings at a stage of their DJing have any good pieces of advice or ideas for survival in a small-time environment.

I'm wearing earplugs when I go to sleep to block out the kids' screaming already... :rolleyes:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Caveman

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I used to live in a small town where everyone would know everyone. It sucked bigtime.

Are there any towns nearby that you can go check out?

The only advice I can give you is be cool from day one. You are given a chance to get a completely new and clean image. Now that you know some of this dj stuff, go work it. There may only be a few HBs but wouldn't it be cool to have them fighting over the new kid?
 

Paintballguy

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I live in a small town but luckily some good cities are pretty close by. Just as Caveman said, try to build up a good rep and look for some other close by towns/cities.
 

faustus

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Caveman,

Thanks for the advice: though, man I know that it's a common comment on these forums, but I really wish that I'd come here sooner... I started out at a new college just last year out of my own accord, and if I had known what I know now then... :D This has made me very determined to be at a good level of DJing when I get to university.

Still, yeah I'm going to make the best out of it - I like your idea of being cool from day one. There are apparently 2 HBs there, and there's another town nearby which I've never checked out
before, so it's a good opp. to try some stuff out.

Paintballguy - there's a city nearby, it's just real difficult to get to now: I guess I'll need to pass my driving test!
 
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