"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Small town girl

joebob789456

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I meet this girl on her bday at a local strip of bars near campus. She was with a couple of mutual friends but I had never meet her before, however she was kind of all over me... especially for not knowing me at all but it was cool cause she was cool and cute.

Would you guys treat a small town girl (500 people) any different than a normal big city girl? I think she is more into that a man should be the one doing all the initiating which i'm cool with but i'm not really sure how to go about it

She has shown some signs of interest... stopped by my apt, answers calls/returns texts, agreed to go out and have some drinks this week (not sure if its just her coming or a friend of hers too)

My thing is I have known her for about a month or two and we rarely talk or kick it but the interest seems there (maybe fading).. I would go either way relationship or just a f-buddy but i'm trying to avoid hitting the friend zone. How do i go about this situation? I've had her number for a while but I dont really use it (mainly cause I got it at a bar and I usually dont call those after that night) but when we see each other its always fun and blah blah.. she was acutally disappointed when I didnt talk to her one night out

How should I go about this? Should I wait till we go out for drinks to talk to her again or should I text/call her before then to build up some feelings (??) What would be some good ways to speed things up?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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joebob789456 said:
I meet this girl on her bday at a local strip of bars near campus. She was with a couple of mutual friends but I had never meet her before, however she was kind of all over me... especially for not knowing me at all but it was cool cause she was cool and cute.
She was probably smashed. So don't neglect to remember that.

joebob789456 said:
Would you guys treat a small town girl (500 people) any different than a normal big city girl?
Why would you treat her differently? Most women are the same..


joebob789456 said:
She has shown some signs of interest... stopped by my apt, answers calls/returns texts, agreed to go out and have some drinks this week (not sure if its just her coming or a friend of hers too)
If she's bringing friends, she considers you one. I really hope your not blowing up her phone with a text/call every week or even couple days.


joebob789456 said:
I would go either way relationship or just a f-buddy but i'm trying to avoid hitting the friend zone.
If you're willing to hold onto her for a fvck buddy, then why are you even considering a relationship?

joebob789456 said:
How should I go about this? Should I wait till we go out for drinks to talk to her again or should I text/call her before then to build up some feelings (??) What would be some good ways to speed things up?
You've been out together once, you didn't get any. You've given her a lot (or at least it seems to me) of your attention, but aren't able to close. You two have chemistry right?

Call her up friday afternoon, say 4-6pm, and ask her when she's having dinner. Tell her you want to meet up for drinks afterwards, then do what you need to do. If you can't get any, give her 1 more chance, if nothing happens, GET A MOVE ON.

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