"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Small town girl

joebob789456

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I meet this girl on her bday at a local strip of bars near campus. She was with a couple of mutual friends but I had never meet her before, however she was kind of all over me... especially for not knowing me at all but it was cool cause she was cool and cute.

Would you guys treat a small town girl (500 people) any different than a normal big city girl? I think she is more into that a man should be the one doing all the initiating which i'm cool with but i'm not really sure how to go about it

She has shown some signs of interest... stopped by my apt, answers calls/returns texts, agreed to go out and have some drinks this week (not sure if its just her coming or a friend of hers too)

My thing is I have known her for about a month or two and we rarely talk or kick it but the interest seems there (maybe fading).. I would go either way relationship or just a f-buddy but i'm trying to avoid hitting the friend zone. How do i go about this situation? I've had her number for a while but I dont really use it (mainly cause I got it at a bar and I usually dont call those after that night) but when we see each other its always fun and blah blah.. she was acutally disappointed when I didnt talk to her one night out

How should I go about this? Should I wait till we go out for drinks to talk to her again or should I text/call her before then to build up some feelings (??) What would be some good ways to speed things up?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Rhoto

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joebob789456 said:
I meet this girl on her bday at a local strip of bars near campus. She was with a couple of mutual friends but I had never meet her before, however she was kind of all over me... especially for not knowing me at all but it was cool cause she was cool and cute.
She was probably smashed. So don't neglect to remember that.

joebob789456 said:
Would you guys treat a small town girl (500 people) any different than a normal big city girl?
Why would you treat her differently? Most women are the same..


joebob789456 said:
She has shown some signs of interest... stopped by my apt, answers calls/returns texts, agreed to go out and have some drinks this week (not sure if its just her coming or a friend of hers too)
If she's bringing friends, she considers you one. I really hope your not blowing up her phone with a text/call every week or even couple days.


joebob789456 said:
I would go either way relationship or just a f-buddy but i'm trying to avoid hitting the friend zone.
If you're willing to hold onto her for a fvck buddy, then why are you even considering a relationship?

joebob789456 said:
How should I go about this? Should I wait till we go out for drinks to talk to her again or should I text/call her before then to build up some feelings (??) What would be some good ways to speed things up?
You've been out together once, you didn't get any. You've given her a lot (or at least it seems to me) of your attention, but aren't able to close. You two have chemistry right?

Call her up friday afternoon, say 4-6pm, and ask her when she's having dinner. Tell her you want to meet up for drinks afterwards, then do what you need to do. If you can't get any, give her 1 more chance, if nothing happens, GET A MOVE ON.

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