Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Small Social Circle Game

Wilko

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There was another thread started a little while ago about the pros and cons of online dating, there wasn't anything too surprising about it but one comment about social circle game really stood out.

The poster basically said there was no way he was prepared to gamble his [few] trusted friendships on a liason with someone's sister, friend of a friend etc. and for that reason he stuck to picking up online. That really struck home for me, I stay the hell away from it for the same reasons that I don't fool around in the workplace. Some of you guys are obviously making it work for you, who's the undisputed champ of social circle game 'round these here parts?

I figure the successful guys have a LOT of regular social contacts and they aren't fvcking with their inner circle. Either that or they're LTR guys, it just seems like there's no way you could get away with the old pump and dump with your best mate's girlfriend's cousin...unless you're Hank Moody.

I can't shake the feeling that for guys [like myself] with tight, small social groups it's really ill-advised.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dear Wilco,
Look getting to close within your Family and friends is a dangerous game.there is no going back mate,rather incestuous really....rather like the depressed boundary rider...his preferred exit is a tourniquet of fencing wire around his throat,you cant go back mate...its Wilco over and out...As for a Internet championship...I have had disaster on the Plate front,feel rather like Napoleon watching Moscow burn...so I have a Lady on the Internet...I have seen her twice...have written,I am ashamed to say more than fourty mails to her,met her twice kiss closed both times,but no reaction to my hand wandering down her waist...But like some one playing roulette I know if I keep my money on 23 eventually my boat will come home...Hmmm.
 

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I have had disaster on the Plate front,feel rather like Napoleon watching Moscow burn
Must have been that "supermoon". I dropped all my plates last week (I wonder if they noticed) none were really proving to be worth the effort, deleted all my online contacts and I'm starting over fresh. Could use a slump-buster but I don't think I'll be going through anyone I know.

Obviously the more harm done if it doesn't work out, the closer in proximity she is to you and your social circle.
Yeah, easier damage control is a fairly underrated/overlooked aspect of day/night/online game.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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