"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheNewGuy

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Hey all,

I'm semi-popular, and I have a crush on a popular sophomore. Normally I would just ask her out, but I have a small high school. So if I ask her out, and she says no then the whole school knows about it and im screwed.

We used to talk alot in one class, but then we got a new teacher and the b!tch moved us :( , now when I talk to her online she barely responds, so I end up doing all the talking.

What should I do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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souporman

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Relax dude... dont worry about the rejection

Just ask her in a way so that if she says no its not really a rejection....

Go out with some friends and invite her along.
 

Maeisgood

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How do you word it to make it not seem like a rejection?
 

jetsfan

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Just tell her you're not doing anything right now, and are looking for something fun to do. Ask her if she wants to hang out or something. If she says no, its no big deal, just say ok i'll talk to ya later or something like that.
 

Mr. Debonaire

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to make it not seem like a rejection you ask her to do something specific that you want to do

ask her if she likes bowling, if she says no then it doesn't matter, if she says yes then say ME TOO! (high five) we should go bowling sometime (be more creative, im tired). if your vibing she will say yeah that'd be awesome, if not then she'll say no. but who cares? your not technically asking her out, so if she says no its no loss for you, right?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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