"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm consciously realizing im AFCing with my GF. We're both still infatuated with one another and everything is still going great. However, I can tell I'm beginning to catch incredibly deep feels and honestly the magnitude of them is starting to scare me. I love this chick. A lot. And the thought of losing her scares me, even though everything is going fine right now.

Please, someone, tell me what I need to hear. I'm better than this.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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denverfan110 said:
I'm consciously realizing im AFCing with my GF. We're both still infatuated with one another and everything is still going great. However, I can tell I'm beginning to catch incredibly deep feels and honestly the magnitude of them is starting to scare me. I love this chick. A lot. And the thought of losing her scares me, even though everything is going fine right now.

Please, someone, tell me what I need to hear. I'm better than this.
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Start spending more time on YOU aka gym, with your friends.

Pick up some hobbies like soccer or football.

The trick is to develop a life that does not completely involve her to remind yourself that you do NOT need her.

Get some phone numbers while your at it, you don't have to actually call but it will help boost your confidence up.
 
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It's normal to start spinning in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with falling hard for someone. Just be smart about it.

The health of an individual has various aspects.
There is:

emotional health
Financial health
mental health
medical health
physical health
social health
and a few others!

Mental health is the most important because it really effects the rest most powerfully, whereas if you are physically ill for example you can still have peace of mind.

When one relationship dominates the other areas of our life then the other areas may suffer. They are interconnected.

See your life in different areas. In different domains. The fear of losing her could affect your mental health, it may affect your physical and emotional health but look at other ways to balance things out.

This improves general well-being.
 
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