"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Slipping into oneitis for a straight guy.

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I feel defeated.

This forum is a really cool place. I learned so much. Beat oneitis with a female friend, who i got major friendzoned by. Made progress in life, gained a lotta weight (though I'm not where I should be yet). Heck, I can tell she's starting to see me as a high value guy with options, despite how she has a boyfriend. I'm going on the right track. I sworn never to get oneitis over a girl again, and never looked back.

And I haven't caught oneitis over a girl again. But I think I'm slipping into oneitis over a guy, who I'm pretty sure is straight. The thing about this guy is that he's essentially an upgraded version of myself. A lot better looking, better than I can ever wish to become without plastic surgery. He carries this air of charisma around him. He makes people laugh, and has an un****able air of alpha surrounding him. And he dated a popular girl whos rather good looking (imo below him but still pretty good), and ****s lots of hot women.

I may never be as good looking as him, but I know I can achieve his alpha traits within time. But thats not the thing.

The thing is...I'm really slipping into the realms of oneitis. This guy is one of the few role models I have in this area of life. But this is one of the major reasons why I'm attracted to him so much....and the fact that I probably won't find another guy as attractive as him in a long time blows. This also makes him harder to next.

But I'll do it. I'll be able to next him. If I could next my former oneitis, which was probably a hundred times more severe than this...I can do this. I'll score a girl soon.... And since he's so hot...perhaps I can use him as a pivot.


I'm done venting...I may write new entries in my story as I battle this.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I don't know if you're joking, but this post cracked me up (I'm not homophobic or anything, your wording was funny). Are you saying that you're sexually attracted to him? If so, I don't think you're going to get very much help on this particular forum. I would probably try Google if I were you.
 

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So do you mean you envy this guy and wish you had his traits?
or did you just come out the closet?
if so, please go back in.
 

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kevin1198 said:
So do you mean you envy this guy and wish you had his traits?
or did you just come out the closet?
if so, please go back in.
Well. I'm bisexual. I don't believe in coming out of the closet, theres nothing special about being homo or straight.

And yes I envy this guys traits quite a bit.
 

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No offense, but from what I've heard from my gay friends, it's not easy to make a straight guy curvy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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amohield said:
No offense, but from what I've heard from my gay friends, it's not easy to make a straight guy curvy.
Unfortunately, I think it's more than not easy...it's downright impossible.
This is exactly why I'm very lucky to be attracted to women as well.

I think I'm making a lot of progress killing the oneitis. Focusing on inner game sure helps a lot.
 

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amohield said:
No offense, but from what I've heard from my gay friends, it's not easy to make a straight guy curvy.
Unfortunately, I think it's more than not easy...it's downright impossible.
This is exactly why I'm very lucky to be attracted to women as well.

I think I'm making a lot of progress killing the oneitis. Focusing on inner game sure helps a lot. Every time I'm around that dude I still feel like I'm way below his level though.
 

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novaknight said:
I feel defeated.

The thing about this guy is that he's essentially an upgraded version of myself. A lot better looking, better than I can ever wish to become without plastic surgery. He carries this air of charisma around him. He makes people laugh, and has an un****able air of alpha surrounding him. And he dated a popular girl whos rather good looking (imo below him but still pretty good), and ****s lots of hot women.

I may never be as good looking as him, but I know I can achieve his alpha traits within time. But thats not the thing.
Upgraded version of yourself you're not a f­ucking Digimon man he's not the evolved Pokemon version of you okay, stop with this p­ussy bullsh!t thinking, you're just killing yourself for even comparing yourself to him. It's even worse you're starting to get gay thoughts as well, which are probably eating you up worse than the self-defeatist thinking.

Just worry about yourself. I don't think you're really gay, you might be w/e but I think spinnin' mo' plates would help!!!
 

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Marvin Gaye said:
Upgraded version of yourself you're not a f­ucking Digimon man he's not the evolved Pokemon version of you okay, stop with this p­ussy bullsh!t thinking, you're just killing yourself for even comparing yourself to him. It's even worse you're starting to get gay thoughts as well, which are probably eating you up worse than the self-defeatist thinking.

Just worry about yourself. I don't think you're really gay, you might be w/e but I think spinnin' mo' plates would help!!!
I'm not completely fag, I just happen to like both men and women (albeit I prefer women). And I'm currently spinning some plates. Think I need to spin even more though.
 

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Alright you're probably just a troll. You shouldn't be "fag" at all. Dudes can be gay and still be DJs, if you're gay that's the hand you were dealt but it doesn't mean you act like a *****.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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