"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Slipping into oneitis for a straight guy.

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I feel defeated.

This forum is a really cool place. I learned so much. Beat oneitis with a female friend, who i got major friendzoned by. Made progress in life, gained a lotta weight (though I'm not where I should be yet). Heck, I can tell she's starting to see me as a high value guy with options, despite how she has a boyfriend. I'm going on the right track. I sworn never to get oneitis over a girl again, and never looked back.

And I haven't caught oneitis over a girl again. But I think I'm slipping into oneitis over a guy, who I'm pretty sure is straight. The thing about this guy is that he's essentially an upgraded version of myself. A lot better looking, better than I can ever wish to become without plastic surgery. He carries this air of charisma around him. He makes people laugh, and has an un****able air of alpha surrounding him. And he dated a popular girl whos rather good looking (imo below him but still pretty good), and ****s lots of hot women.

I may never be as good looking as him, but I know I can achieve his alpha traits within time. But thats not the thing.

The thing is...I'm really slipping into the realms of oneitis. This guy is one of the few role models I have in this area of life. But this is one of the major reasons why I'm attracted to him so much....and the fact that I probably won't find another guy as attractive as him in a long time blows. This also makes him harder to next.

But I'll do it. I'll be able to next him. If I could next my former oneitis, which was probably a hundred times more severe than this...I can do this. I'll score a girl soon.... And since he's so hot...perhaps I can use him as a pivot.


I'm done venting...I may write new entries in my story as I battle this.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I don't know if you're joking, but this post cracked me up (I'm not homophobic or anything, your wording was funny). Are you saying that you're sexually attracted to him? If so, I don't think you're going to get very much help on this particular forum. I would probably try Google if I were you.
 

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So do you mean you envy this guy and wish you had his traits?
or did you just come out the closet?
if so, please go back in.
 

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kevin1198 said:
So do you mean you envy this guy and wish you had his traits?
or did you just come out the closet?
if so, please go back in.
Well. I'm bisexual. I don't believe in coming out of the closet, theres nothing special about being homo or straight.

And yes I envy this guys traits quite a bit.
 

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No offense, but from what I've heard from my gay friends, it's not easy to make a straight guy curvy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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amohield said:
No offense, but from what I've heard from my gay friends, it's not easy to make a straight guy curvy.
Unfortunately, I think it's more than not easy...it's downright impossible.
This is exactly why I'm very lucky to be attracted to women as well.

I think I'm making a lot of progress killing the oneitis. Focusing on inner game sure helps a lot.
 

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amohield said:
No offense, but from what I've heard from my gay friends, it's not easy to make a straight guy curvy.
Unfortunately, I think it's more than not easy...it's downright impossible.
This is exactly why I'm very lucky to be attracted to women as well.

I think I'm making a lot of progress killing the oneitis. Focusing on inner game sure helps a lot. Every time I'm around that dude I still feel like I'm way below his level though.
 

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Negative thoughts down the drain just relax, let t
novaknight said:
I feel defeated.

The thing about this guy is that he's essentially an upgraded version of myself. A lot better looking, better than I can ever wish to become without plastic surgery. He carries this air of charisma around him. He makes people laugh, and has an un****able air of alpha surrounding him. And he dated a popular girl whos rather good looking (imo below him but still pretty good), and ****s lots of hot women.

I may never be as good looking as him, but I know I can achieve his alpha traits within time. But thats not the thing.
Upgraded version of yourself you're not a f­ucking Digimon man he's not the evolved Pokemon version of you okay, stop with this p­ussy bullsh!t thinking, you're just killing yourself for even comparing yourself to him. It's even worse you're starting to get gay thoughts as well, which are probably eating you up worse than the self-defeatist thinking.

Just worry about yourself. I don't think you're really gay, you might be w/e but I think spinnin' mo' plates would help!!!
 

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Marvin Gaye said:
Upgraded version of yourself you're not a f­ucking Digimon man he's not the evolved Pokemon version of you okay, stop with this p­ussy bullsh!t thinking, you're just killing yourself for even comparing yourself to him. It's even worse you're starting to get gay thoughts as well, which are probably eating you up worse than the self-defeatist thinking.

Just worry about yourself. I don't think you're really gay, you might be w/e but I think spinnin' mo' plates would help!!!
I'm not completely fag, I just happen to like both men and women (albeit I prefer women). And I'm currently spinning some plates. Think I need to spin even more though.
 

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Alright you're probably just a troll. You shouldn't be "fag" at all. Dudes can be gay and still be DJs, if you're gay that's the hand you were dealt but it doesn't mean you act like a *****.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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