"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Slipping in and out of state?

kevin1198

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There are times where I feel on top of the world. The best way I can describe it as is a feeling of extreme well being. I am content with myself, happiness, confidence come from within, almost like a fountain spewing out fun and value everywhere I go. Everything falls into place and I "just get it". At this stage, everyone notices a change and flocks toward me like a heard of animals trying to be around me just to talk and hang out.

Then I wake up the next day and I'm back to my same old self. Everyone notices the sudden change of behavior and things go back to normal.

Why is it that at times I can feel like A true DJ, then slip back into the AFC state of mind?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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scudge

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Happens to me also.

Make the most of the flow state and take note of how you got there in the first place. Sometimes it's as easy as focusing on your breathing for 3-4 minutes.

Breath in for 4-6 and at the top of the breath, immediately start breathing out. The exhale should take about the same amount of time or a bit longer. When your lungs are empty, start the process again immediately. No breaks between breaths. Make sure you are breathing into your stomach. A good way to do this is visualize the air going to your balls.

Good luck man. Make the most of the flow. :D
 

Mindgamez

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Man, I have those roller coaster feelings ALL THE TIME!
Today during lunch time I was feeling kind of bad. I read this thread, then I immediately left my chair and went to that table to meet that friend's friends. Met this new girl. She was ugly but whatever. I got up my lazy ass and this is what counts.
 

AlexLefty

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It happens.

With enough time and training, those times that you do slip out of state will decrease and will be very insignificant.

I used to drop out of state constantly, and for long periods of time. Now, I rarely do, maybe once or so a month, and when I do, I'm able to bring my self back to "normal" within the day. See, what you have to do is adjust yourself so that those days when you're feeling in a euphoric state become your normal days. When you're really happy, don't think of it as being really happy, you are really happy. You are abnormal when you are not happy. Force yourself to believe that your normal state is your euphoric state.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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