"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Slipping in and out of state?

kevin1198

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There are times where I feel on top of the world. The best way I can describe it as is a feeling of extreme well being. I am content with myself, happiness, confidence come from within, almost like a fountain spewing out fun and value everywhere I go. Everything falls into place and I "just get it". At this stage, everyone notices a change and flocks toward me like a heard of animals trying to be around me just to talk and hang out.

Then I wake up the next day and I'm back to my same old self. Everyone notices the sudden change of behavior and things go back to normal.

Why is it that at times I can feel like A true DJ, then slip back into the AFC state of mind?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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scudge

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Happens to me also.

Make the most of the flow state and take note of how you got there in the first place. Sometimes it's as easy as focusing on your breathing for 3-4 minutes.

Breath in for 4-6 and at the top of the breath, immediately start breathing out. The exhale should take about the same amount of time or a bit longer. When your lungs are empty, start the process again immediately. No breaks between breaths. Make sure you are breathing into your stomach. A good way to do this is visualize the air going to your balls.

Good luck man. Make the most of the flow. :D
 

Mindgamez

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Man, I have those roller coaster feelings ALL THE TIME!
Today during lunch time I was feeling kind of bad. I read this thread, then I immediately left my chair and went to that table to meet that friend's friends. Met this new girl. She was ugly but whatever. I got up my lazy ass and this is what counts.
 

AlexLefty

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It happens.

With enough time and training, those times that you do slip out of state will decrease and will be very insignificant.

I used to drop out of state constantly, and for long periods of time. Now, I rarely do, maybe once or so a month, and when I do, I'm able to bring my self back to "normal" within the day. See, what you have to do is adjust yourself so that those days when you're feeling in a euphoric state become your normal days. When you're really happy, don't think of it as being really happy, you are really happy. You are abnormal when you are not happy. Force yourself to believe that your normal state is your euphoric state.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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