"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mrs.5string is doing it.

Can you do anything to stop it or treat it? I just don't want her to go a$$ over tea kettle and find her t!ts up at the bottom of the staircase.

She also chatters like a schoolgirl in her sleep and waking me up.

I'm serious guys. This is a real problem. Help me out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/sleep-related-problems/sleepwalking

Does alcohol affect the problem? Maybe try a little wine before bed?

I don't think the problem has one definitive answer for everyone, other than to experiment with changing any current medications and also diet. One at a time, she could try cutting out all of the things we tend to ingest in excess (salt, sugar, caffeine, alcohol, gluten) and see if that makes any difference.
 

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I've sleptwalked my entire life and still do occassionally. Especially during times of stress. One of my jobs is highly stressful and requires alot of quick thinking and acting. On nights before I work I usually work the day in my sleep and will often catch myself up rearranging the room.

Despite this I have never hurt myself or anyone else. I think that a sleepwalker is just conscious enough that we usually don't hurt anything. I don't know if there is much to do other than tiring yourself out more than usual. I never sleep walk nights after a particularly difficult day. I also usually try to separate myself for a couple hours from anything stressful before I go to sleep. Nix the caffiene too. All of these contribute to your in-between state.

One piece of advice for her just in case. Wear your front door key around your neck or wrist while you sleep. Especially if it's in a new bed. Personal experience. :yes:
 

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Bible_Belt said:
http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/sleep-related-problems/sleepwalking

Does alcohol affect the problem? Maybe try a little wine before bed?

I don't think the problem has one definitive answer for everyone, other than to experiment with changing any current medications and also diet. One at a time, she could try cutting out all of the things we tend to ingest in excess (salt, sugar, caffeine, alcohol, gluten) and see if that makes any difference.
Thanks Bible.

She does drink alot of coffee. Has a couple of glases of red wine at night. Seems to be a consensus that you should actually wake them up. I'll talk to her tonight about it. Actually, she's aleady told me it's ok to wake her when she's talking in her sleep.

I'ts bad enough when they talk when they are awake! :D
 

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Any way to set a movement alarm when it's bedtime? Like when she steps out of bed before her usual wake up time, it would blasts a sound that would wake up the whole neighborhood.

When I was a kid, a friend and neighbor of mine would occasionally walk in his sleep. Somehow he would always walk from his bedroom on the 2nd floor out the front door. His parents were scared to death each time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I started to bolt lock both the bedroom door, the door going out to the master balcony and the door going from the master down to the courtyard. She can't seem to figure out how to open them when she's asleep.

Weird.
 

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I lived with a woman who was a sleepwalker. Not really much you can do but convince them to come back to bed. She used to get all frustrated about something when she was sleepwalking and I'd tell her "come back to bed, I'll take care of it for you" and she'd listen.
 

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To the guys who are sleepwalking: How did you realize you were sleepwalking?

Do you wake up while sleepwalking? Or do you wake up the next morning finding your whole apartment rearranged? Or maybe something else?
 

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What exactly does she do when she sleepwalks?
 

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Atom Smasher said:
What exactly does she do when she sleepwalks?
Well, one time she went all the way downstairs and into the garage. She was just sitting there, still asleep. One of my dogs was kissing her face. I just grabbed her by the hand and took her back to bed. She didnt say a thing. She has also gone downstairs and washed a few dishes and does not remember doing it. There is more, but you get the picture Atom.

Weird.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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So how can you tell she when she sleepwalking? Does she still have her eyes closed? Is it dangerous to wake someone up while they are sleepwalking? Sorry if this sounds ignorant. I have never seen someone sleep walking before, I'd probably get a fright if I did!
 

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seagull said:
So how can you tell she when she sleepwalking? Does she still have her eyes closed? Is it dangerous to wake someone up while they are sleepwalking? Sorry if this sounds ignorant. I have never seen someone sleep walking before, I'd probably get a fright if I did!
It's not ignorant.

She has her eyes open. They are kinda glazed over and she looks like she's in a trance. I have even asked her questions and she's answered. Never remembers a thing the next morning.

What I have read is that the best thing is to wake them. I have not done that yet but I'm gonna and have told her so. I'm just concerned that she might get hurt.
 

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So if she wasn't having a boyfriend, she wouldn't knew she was sleepwalking? Quite fascinating.

A few times I woke up with my arms spread wide looking for a lightswitch because I had to go to the bathroom. Is that sleepwalking? Or just fully automatic going to the bathroom at night?

I never done "weird" things like doing the dishes or driving a car while being a sleep. I asked my doctor about it. She told me sleepwalking only happens in Donald Duck cartoons. :confused:

Your girlfriend never woke up by herself during sleepwalking? How many times a week does she sleepwalk?
 

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seagull said:
So how can you tell she when she sleepwalking? Does she still have her eyes closed? Is it dangerous to wake someone up while they are sleepwalking? Sorry if this sounds ignorant. I have never seen someone sleep walking before, I'd probably get a fright if I did!
It's difficult to tell at first if the person is sleepwalking. They can walk around with their eyes open, just as if they woke up to go take a piss. The giveaway is what they're doing or what they're talking about. If they're doing or saying something that makes absolutely no sense, then they're still sleeping. You know those dreams you have that are completely fvcking retarded? Imagine acting one out. That's basically what sleepwalking is.

You can wake someone up from sleepwalking. The point where they actually wake up can be a bit difficult to tell. They can insist that they are awake even if they're still sleeping. That's why I don't bother waking them up. I just convince them to go back to bed.

You probably wouldn't be frightened by a sleepwalker. You'd probably think it's bizarre or even funny.
 
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