Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Mrs.5string is doing it.

Can you do anything to stop it or treat it? I just don't want her to go a$$ over tea kettle and find her t!ts up at the bottom of the staircase.

She also chatters like a schoolgirl in her sleep and waking me up.

I'm serious guys. This is a real problem. Help me out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/sleep-related-problems/sleepwalking

Does alcohol affect the problem? Maybe try a little wine before bed?

I don't think the problem has one definitive answer for everyone, other than to experiment with changing any current medications and also diet. One at a time, she could try cutting out all of the things we tend to ingest in excess (salt, sugar, caffeine, alcohol, gluten) and see if that makes any difference.
 

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I've sleptwalked my entire life and still do occassionally. Especially during times of stress. One of my jobs is highly stressful and requires alot of quick thinking and acting. On nights before I work I usually work the day in my sleep and will often catch myself up rearranging the room.

Despite this I have never hurt myself or anyone else. I think that a sleepwalker is just conscious enough that we usually don't hurt anything. I don't know if there is much to do other than tiring yourself out more than usual. I never sleep walk nights after a particularly difficult day. I also usually try to separate myself for a couple hours from anything stressful before I go to sleep. Nix the caffiene too. All of these contribute to your in-between state.

One piece of advice for her just in case. Wear your front door key around your neck or wrist while you sleep. Especially if it's in a new bed. Personal experience. :yes:
 

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Bible_Belt said:
http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/sleep-related-problems/sleepwalking

Does alcohol affect the problem? Maybe try a little wine before bed?

I don't think the problem has one definitive answer for everyone, other than to experiment with changing any current medications and also diet. One at a time, she could try cutting out all of the things we tend to ingest in excess (salt, sugar, caffeine, alcohol, gluten) and see if that makes any difference.
Thanks Bible.

She does drink alot of coffee. Has a couple of glases of red wine at night. Seems to be a consensus that you should actually wake them up. I'll talk to her tonight about it. Actually, she's aleady told me it's ok to wake her when she's talking in her sleep.

I'ts bad enough when they talk when they are awake! :D
 

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Any way to set a movement alarm when it's bedtime? Like when she steps out of bed before her usual wake up time, it would blasts a sound that would wake up the whole neighborhood.

When I was a kid, a friend and neighbor of mine would occasionally walk in his sleep. Somehow he would always walk from his bedroom on the 2nd floor out the front door. His parents were scared to death each time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I started to bolt lock both the bedroom door, the door going out to the master balcony and the door going from the master down to the courtyard. She can't seem to figure out how to open them when she's asleep.

Weird.
 

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I lived with a woman who was a sleepwalker. Not really much you can do but convince them to come back to bed. She used to get all frustrated about something when she was sleepwalking and I'd tell her "come back to bed, I'll take care of it for you" and she'd listen.
 

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To the guys who are sleepwalking: How did you realize you were sleepwalking?

Do you wake up while sleepwalking? Or do you wake up the next morning finding your whole apartment rearranged? Or maybe something else?
 

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What exactly does she do when she sleepwalks?
 

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Atom Smasher said:
What exactly does she do when she sleepwalks?
Well, one time she went all the way downstairs and into the garage. She was just sitting there, still asleep. One of my dogs was kissing her face. I just grabbed her by the hand and took her back to bed. She didnt say a thing. She has also gone downstairs and washed a few dishes and does not remember doing it. There is more, but you get the picture Atom.

Weird.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So how can you tell she when she sleepwalking? Does she still have her eyes closed? Is it dangerous to wake someone up while they are sleepwalking? Sorry if this sounds ignorant. I have never seen someone sleep walking before, I'd probably get a fright if I did!
 

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seagull said:
So how can you tell she when she sleepwalking? Does she still have her eyes closed? Is it dangerous to wake someone up while they are sleepwalking? Sorry if this sounds ignorant. I have never seen someone sleep walking before, I'd probably get a fright if I did!
It's not ignorant.

She has her eyes open. They are kinda glazed over and she looks like she's in a trance. I have even asked her questions and she's answered. Never remembers a thing the next morning.

What I have read is that the best thing is to wake them. I have not done that yet but I'm gonna and have told her so. I'm just concerned that she might get hurt.
 

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So if she wasn't having a boyfriend, she wouldn't knew she was sleepwalking? Quite fascinating.

A few times I woke up with my arms spread wide looking for a lightswitch because I had to go to the bathroom. Is that sleepwalking? Or just fully automatic going to the bathroom at night?

I never done "weird" things like doing the dishes or driving a car while being a sleep. I asked my doctor about it. She told me sleepwalking only happens in Donald Duck cartoons. :confused:

Your girlfriend never woke up by herself during sleepwalking? How many times a week does she sleepwalk?
 

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seagull said:
So how can you tell she when she sleepwalking? Does she still have her eyes closed? Is it dangerous to wake someone up while they are sleepwalking? Sorry if this sounds ignorant. I have never seen someone sleep walking before, I'd probably get a fright if I did!
It's difficult to tell at first if the person is sleepwalking. They can walk around with their eyes open, just as if they woke up to go take a piss. The giveaway is what they're doing or what they're talking about. If they're doing or saying something that makes absolutely no sense, then they're still sleeping. You know those dreams you have that are completely fvcking retarded? Imagine acting one out. That's basically what sleepwalking is.

You can wake someone up from sleepwalking. The point where they actually wake up can be a bit difficult to tell. They can insist that they are awake even if they're still sleeping. That's why I don't bother waking them up. I just convince them to go back to bed.

You probably wouldn't be frightened by a sleepwalker. You'd probably think it's bizarre or even funny.
 
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