"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sleeping well??

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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When I can't sleep, I come on here and read through a few of my old threads, works a treat:D

Pillows are personal, your gonna have to experiment. Think of a time when you slept well, what were the conditions, have you changed anything recently?

Usually, going to bed with something bugging you is the worst. If I've got something important on the next day, I can stare at the ceiling for hours. Silly really, wake up next day feeling sh1te.
 

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what's wrong with one? two's uncumfy for my neck

because of weightlifting, i am permanently shattered, so i'll fall asleep any time and sleep till after midday everyday if i don't try to wake up.

i heard milk before bed gets you sleepy.

also, if i'm wearing two pairs of socks, or my feet are really warm, i tend to fall asleep even during the day in a chair, nevermind on the bed.
 

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I have three (because I'm a cheap sh**e and get the type that flattened in a week:) ) The fact you are getting to sleep would seem to indicate that its not the pillows, or are you waking because of a stiff neck? As has been said, experiment with different arrangements.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Interesting, I assume you mean dark circles under the eyes. I have these too and have had for years regardless of my sleep pattern, though obviously worse when not sleeping well. I recall reading somewhere that its hereditary and my mother having them seems to support this.
 
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