wakingup
Don Juan
Any threads on here about sleeping over? Is there any sort of general advice on this topic?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sleeping Over Rules
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Whatever YOU like, NOT what SHE wants. Don't let her weasel her way into your life without your permission. ACTIVE permission..... YOU say yes, none of this "it just happened" and "I don't know how" sh1t.
She NEVER moves in until after you are married, and it would be best if she didn't then
She NEVER moves in until after you are married, and it would be best if she didn't then
zekko
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Everyone always says don't let her move in unless you marry her. But these days getting married may not be the best idea. I use cohabitation IN PLACE of marriage. No need to sign a government contract with her so she can screw you whenever she likes
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear Waking up,
All the above sounds good...Sodbuster is right about doing it YOUR way...If you want to go home after the deadly deed,then go!...Weazelling her way into your life is an amusing and apt description LOL!
All the above sounds good...Sodbuster is right about doing it YOUR way...If you want to go home after the deadly deed,then go!...Weazelling her way into your life is an amusing and apt description LOL!
glass half full
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yep I agree with Sodbuster and Scaramouche. Do things your way. After all that is what has escaped men over the years.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.