"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
sleeping around, around 30 and lies
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Still haven't gotten an answer for this question....thats interesting...maybe I should ask the girls at love schack? i'd rather notsosilky said:Still nobody has explained to me why asking a girl if she is seeing other guys or what not is a sign of insecurity. why would a girl see it that way?
How old are you and how old is she?sosilky said:Still haven't gotten an answer for this question....thats interesting...maybe I should ask the girls at love schack? i'd rather not
don't see how thats relevent as a few guys mentioned in this thread that in general that shows signs of insecurity. Yet not why. Plus I already said how old we were.Latinoman said:How old are you and how old is she?
I am 40. It does not show a sign of insecurity in my case. I already said why I asked the question.sosilky said:don't see how thats relevent as a few guys mentioned in this thread that in general that shows signs of insecurity. Yet not why. Plus I already said how old we were.
But, I need to know how old are you and her in order to understand the situation better and give you advice on how to better frame the question. I don't care if you are 18...or 28...or 58.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MacAvoy
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Hmmm, old, wise mature men keep asking the same thing .... hmmm ... yet I'm this new guy trying to absorb as much as possible, even asking hypothetical questions .... but I don't see why its important.sosilky said:don't see how thats relevent as a few guys mentioned in this thread that in general that shows signs of insecurity. Yet not why. Plus I already said how old we were.
They are asking for a reason. Because the answer will change dependent on age. Things are worlds apart for an 18 year old and a 40 year old, if you don't realize that, then maybe your not ready to become a DJ. There is also a difference between 25 and 29 and whether she's 29 and your 25 or vice versa.
MacAvoy
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Why is the sky blue? Do you question that? Why is 2+2 four? Does it really matter why she sees it that way? Ever think that maybe people are not answering your question for a reason?sosilky said:Still nobody has explained to me why asking a girl if she is seeing other guys or what not is a sign of insecurity. why would a girl see it that way?
Yes because they don't know...I'm 29 she's 28MacAvoy said:Why is the sky blue? Do you question that? Why is 2+2 four? Does it really matter why she sees it that way? Ever think that maybe people are not answering your question for a reason?
Are you in a relationship with her (committed)?sosilky said:Yes because they don't know...I'm 29 she's 28
Tell me more about the type of relationship you two are...friend with benefits? Non-sexual? Just dating?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I was asking about when we first started nailing. but you can touch more serious relationships if you want. did you read the original post and following ones?Latinoman said:Are you in a relationship with her (committed)?
Tell me more about the type of relationship you two are...friend with benefits? Non-sexual? Just dating?
MacAvoy
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Latinoman,Latinoman said:Are you in a relationship with her (committed)?
Tell me more about the type of relationship you two are...friend with benefits? Non-sexual? Just dating?
This isn't a real life situation your trying to help him with. Its an imaginary scenario. (I can't keep a straight face while I type this).
He's said several times in the past that his posts aren't about his life but he's "trying to learn" by asking hypothetical questions.sosilky said:I wasn't realy asking about anybody in particular
If I am in a SERIOUS/COMMITTED relationship...the it is EXPECTED that we would ONLY be having sex with each other.sosilky said:I was asking about when we first started nailing. but you can touch more serious relationships if you want. did you read the original post and following ones?
ok so you haven't read threw the posts in this thread. allright latino thanx i'm enlightenedLatinoman said:If I am in a SERIOUS/COMMITTED relationship...the it is EXPECTED that we would ONLY be having sex with each other.
I don't have to read what others have to say. I don't compromise on my masculinity and I don't compromise in my values. Meaning that when it comes to comitted relationships, I have some expectations.sosilky said:ok so you haven't read threw the posts in this thread. allright latino thanx i'm enlightened
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
what does your masculinity have to do with me asking why women find asking or suspecting if they are dating or sleeping with other men a sign of insecurity? who asked you about your opinion on commited relationships? either answer that or comment on the OP.Latinoman said:I don't have to read what others have to say. I don't compromise on my masculinity and I don't compromise in my values. Meaning that when it comes to comitted relationships, I have some expectations.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
azanon said:Anyone that believes it's possible to get accurate sexual history information from a woman is a fool. So tell me, did I just call you a fool?
Use protection and hope for the best, or just don't have sex. Sorry, but that's your two choices.
Doctors can give you tests for STD's as well as copies of the report.
Idiot.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
Not everyone is so emotionally weak that they can't handle the truth. People who say "you don't to know the truth" are too weak for it themselves and GOD FORBID anyone else can deal with it and thus be stronger than they are.sosilky said:here's some questions for thought based on previous threads. please expand on them. are you saying that she would think you are naive and foolish for assuming she might be telling the truth? why would she assume your insecure? and why lie? why wouldn't we want to hear the truth? and if you say its none of your business unless in a serious relationship, when it becomes serious do you assume she is telling the truth? do you have a right to know her history at that point? do you want to get serious with someone u assume was lieing to you?
You're asking the wrong questions to the wrong people. The kind of people you are talking about are emotionally bankrupt. They play games, cause drama, fvck up their lives and then blame as much of it on everyone else as possible. They are also the type to assume that everyone else is a p.o.s. like themselves.
The kind of people you are talking about who act ****y / self-confidant do so because they are too stupid to know how ignorant they are. Loud confidence is usually fake, while the quietly confident are usually decent people.
Just say no to hos.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
Condoms don't stop all STD's.MacAvoy said:Can you explain to me how this makes a difference? Are you saying that if your in a FB relationship with a women and she isn't sleeping with anybody, that you'll sleep with her WITHOUT a condom?
Personally I don't see how it makes a difference for health reasons.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.