"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
sleeping around, around 30 and lies
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Still haven't gotten an answer for this question....thats interesting...maybe I should ask the girls at love schack? i'd rather notsosilky said:Still nobody has explained to me why asking a girl if she is seeing other guys or what not is a sign of insecurity. why would a girl see it that way?
How old are you and how old is she?sosilky said:Still haven't gotten an answer for this question....thats interesting...maybe I should ask the girls at love schack? i'd rather not
don't see how thats relevent as a few guys mentioned in this thread that in general that shows signs of insecurity. Yet not why. Plus I already said how old we were.Latinoman said:How old are you and how old is she?
I am 40. It does not show a sign of insecurity in my case. I already said why I asked the question.sosilky said:don't see how thats relevent as a few guys mentioned in this thread that in general that shows signs of insecurity. Yet not why. Plus I already said how old we were.
But, I need to know how old are you and her in order to understand the situation better and give you advice on how to better frame the question. I don't care if you are 18...or 28...or 58.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MacAvoy
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Hmmm, old, wise mature men keep asking the same thing .... hmmm ... yet I'm this new guy trying to absorb as much as possible, even asking hypothetical questions .... but I don't see why its important.sosilky said:don't see how thats relevent as a few guys mentioned in this thread that in general that shows signs of insecurity. Yet not why. Plus I already said how old we were.
They are asking for a reason. Because the answer will change dependent on age. Things are worlds apart for an 18 year old and a 40 year old, if you don't realize that, then maybe your not ready to become a DJ. There is also a difference between 25 and 29 and whether she's 29 and your 25 or vice versa.
MacAvoy
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Why is the sky blue? Do you question that? Why is 2+2 four? Does it really matter why she sees it that way? Ever think that maybe people are not answering your question for a reason?sosilky said:Still nobody has explained to me why asking a girl if she is seeing other guys or what not is a sign of insecurity. why would a girl see it that way?
Yes because they don't know...I'm 29 she's 28MacAvoy said:Why is the sky blue? Do you question that? Why is 2+2 four? Does it really matter why she sees it that way? Ever think that maybe people are not answering your question for a reason?
Are you in a relationship with her (committed)?sosilky said:Yes because they don't know...I'm 29 she's 28
Tell me more about the type of relationship you two are...friend with benefits? Non-sexual? Just dating?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I was asking about when we first started nailing. but you can touch more serious relationships if you want. did you read the original post and following ones?Latinoman said:Are you in a relationship with her (committed)?
Tell me more about the type of relationship you two are...friend with benefits? Non-sexual? Just dating?
MacAvoy
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Latinoman,Latinoman said:Are you in a relationship with her (committed)?
Tell me more about the type of relationship you two are...friend with benefits? Non-sexual? Just dating?
This isn't a real life situation your trying to help him with. Its an imaginary scenario. (I can't keep a straight face while I type this).
He's said several times in the past that his posts aren't about his life but he's "trying to learn" by asking hypothetical questions.sosilky said:I wasn't realy asking about anybody in particular
If I am in a SERIOUS/COMMITTED relationship...the it is EXPECTED that we would ONLY be having sex with each other.sosilky said:I was asking about when we first started nailing. but you can touch more serious relationships if you want. did you read the original post and following ones?
ok so you haven't read threw the posts in this thread. allright latino thanx i'm enlightenedLatinoman said:If I am in a SERIOUS/COMMITTED relationship...the it is EXPECTED that we would ONLY be having sex with each other.
I don't have to read what others have to say. I don't compromise on my masculinity and I don't compromise in my values. Meaning that when it comes to comitted relationships, I have some expectations.sosilky said:ok so you haven't read threw the posts in this thread. allright latino thanx i'm enlightened
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
what does your masculinity have to do with me asking why women find asking or suspecting if they are dating or sleeping with other men a sign of insecurity? who asked you about your opinion on commited relationships? either answer that or comment on the OP.Latinoman said:I don't have to read what others have to say. I don't compromise on my masculinity and I don't compromise in my values. Meaning that when it comes to comitted relationships, I have some expectations.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
azanon said:Anyone that believes it's possible to get accurate sexual history information from a woman is a fool. So tell me, did I just call you a fool?
Use protection and hope for the best, or just don't have sex. Sorry, but that's your two choices.
Doctors can give you tests for STD's as well as copies of the report.
Idiot.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
Not everyone is so emotionally weak that they can't handle the truth. People who say "you don't to know the truth" are too weak for it themselves and GOD FORBID anyone else can deal with it and thus be stronger than they are.sosilky said:here's some questions for thought based on previous threads. please expand on them. are you saying that she would think you are naive and foolish for assuming she might be telling the truth? why would she assume your insecure? and why lie? why wouldn't we want to hear the truth? and if you say its none of your business unless in a serious relationship, when it becomes serious do you assume she is telling the truth? do you have a right to know her history at that point? do you want to get serious with someone u assume was lieing to you?
You're asking the wrong questions to the wrong people. The kind of people you are talking about are emotionally bankrupt. They play games, cause drama, fvck up their lives and then blame as much of it on everyone else as possible. They are also the type to assume that everyone else is a p.o.s. like themselves.
The kind of people you are talking about who act ****y / self-confidant do so because they are too stupid to know how ignorant they are. Loud confidence is usually fake, while the quietly confident are usually decent people.
Just say no to hos.
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
Condoms don't stop all STD's.MacAvoy said:Can you explain to me how this makes a difference? Are you saying that if your in a FB relationship with a women and she isn't sleeping with anybody, that you'll sleep with her WITHOUT a condom?
Personally I don't see how it makes a difference for health reasons.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.