"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Slcik DJ Shoes?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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do you know what a "dj" is? it's about being unique and standing out from the rest. you people need to stop trying to be the same as everyone... go out to a store and try your own sh1t on for yourselves.
i bet youre going to ask if theres a "C&F" way of asking how to get shoes from a "cute HB8" salesgirl now. - luckily i have an answer for that... say "hey i like those shoes over there, wanna fvck?"
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live up to your own advice.oteao99 said:
Kev07
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but to answer your question, i like my puma's and vans
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I'm pretty sure there was a thread about shoes in the discussion forum, from a week or 2 back. The search button is your friend
."I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It's really a matter of personal style. I like the old school shoes like Nike Cortez and Adidas Superstar. I like white shoes since they evoke a sense of cleaniness, match with everything, and look stylish. I'm also starting to like Lacoste sneakers too.oteao99 said:
But trust me you wanna be true to yourself. Go to footlocker and look at the shoes and pick what YOU think looks good on you. Good luck!