Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Slapping the guy

Don Wha

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First of all. This is me rambling late at nite....

So, it has been a while since my ex and I broke up. During the time when we were together, I went from unknowing DJ to AFC. During my time as AFC, she started losing interest and was talking to another guy, who she admitted to me, made out with when she was "drunk". She told me it was because she was drunk, yadi yadi ya, and me being the AFC, swallowed up all that BS. Things were still on the ropes for a long time, mostly because she couldn't figure out wtf she wanted out of our relationship and all that BS. After a while, I/we were fed up with it and I broke it off with her.

Anyways, I know that it was my fault that she lost interested. I know that I AFC'd. But that's all in the past and I've moved on.

Interesting story tonight....I ran into the guy that she made out with while we were together. I didnt recognize him at first, but recognized him after one of my buddies, who knows him was saying wassup to him and said his name.

Like the title says.... I walked up to him and slapped him. Afterwords, I simply said, "thats what you get". He actually took it very pleasantly and agreed (maybe I should have b!tch slapped him) . I was very surprised. Maybe it was my demeanor, radiating the "dont fVck with me" attitude, but i was very chill and in control of the situation. After he agreed that thats "what he deserved" and apologized, I actually thanked him for doing what he did. Because the b!tch would have cheated on me with any guy; if not him, then any other guy. The situation actually opened my eyes, and I have learned and grown so much since then (many thanks to this site). But I can truly say that I am happier than I've been in a long time.

I am not usually a very confronting/aggressive/violent person. If I was, I would have knocked his ass out. But needless to say, even tho the root of the problem boils down to me.... it felt very liberating to slap his ass. I knew that I would run into him one way or the other and was always curious to know what I would do. To me, this sort of symbolizes me going back into my DJ ways, taking a stand for myself and now, leaving that sh!t in the past.

I've been ready to move on and grow, and this was just another step towards my goal.

Enough rambling....

-Don Wha in the making
 

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Don Wha said:
Like the title says.... I walked up to him and slapped him.
You are a girl.

Don Wha said:
Afterwords, I simply said, "thats what you get". He actually took it very pleasantly and agreed (maybe I should have b!tch slapped him) . I was very surprised.
Yes you should be surprised. If you would have touched me or anyone else, you would have been crushed.

Don Wha said:
But needless to say, even tho the root of the problem boils down to me.... it felt very liberating to slap his ass.
If you slapped him, you are not owning it. She cheated on you because YOU reverted back to AFC form. He just happened to get action because YOU caused her to lose respect for you.

OWN it.
 

kingsam

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Trader said:
She cheated on you because YOU reverted back to AFC form. He just happened to get action because YOU caused her to lose respect for you.

OWN it.
THIS

the slap was pretty pointless really!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LOL. Lucky you. Slapping a man is a serious insult and you are lucky you didn't get pounded into the pavement. He must be a bigger girl than you are. Where I'm from a slap is a worse disrespect than a punch. If you slapped me I have to beat your ass on principle, a slap says, your a ***** who doesn't deserve a punch. I would have tried to break your face. Lucky you.
 

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I agree with Warrior 74- I've had drunk friends hit me and I didn't beat them into the ground. BUT I did ask them the next day if they wanted to continue what they started last night-NONE ever did. BUT a stranger? I may only hit you once,but I hope you like breathing the next 6 weeks with broken ribs.
 

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you slapped him? Do you feel like you got back your non-existent balls now? That feel better?

I feel sorry for your ex. For having the bad luck of ever being your GF
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don Wha

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Trader said:
If you slapped him, you are not owning it. She cheated on you because YOU reverted back to AFC form. He just happened to get action because YOU caused her to lose respect for you.

OWN it.
I already understood and acknowledged this in the post.

DJ_Hero said:
Some b*tch cheated on you and you blamed the guy? You weren't in a relationship with the guy, don't take it out on him.
I understand this as well. But I couldn't have him walking around town thinking that it was ok for him to hit on the girl that I was with, or any girl in the future. Believe me, this will never happen again in the future. Not because I slapped him, but because I know better to be AFC in a relationship.

Warrior74 said:
LOL. Lucky you. Slapping a man is a serious insult and you are lucky you didn't get pounded into the pavement. He must be a bigger girl than you are. Where I'm from a slap is a worse disrespect than a punch. If you slapped me I have to beat your ass on principle, a slap says, your a ***** who doesn't deserve a punch. I would have tried to break your face. Lucky you.
This was my intention. I was fully prepared to throw down with him if he wanted to, although my initial intention was to insult him and make a statement.

HolyG said:
I feel sorry for your ex. For having the bad luck of ever being your GF
I am the prize.
 

zekko

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I am the prize.
You're a prize AFC.

Like Kerpal said, it's not this guy's fault your girl's a slut. Man up, don't go around slapping people like a girl, and chalk it up to life experience.
 
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