"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Slapping the guy

Don Wha

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First of all. This is me rambling late at nite....

So, it has been a while since my ex and I broke up. During the time when we were together, I went from unknowing DJ to AFC. During my time as AFC, she started losing interest and was talking to another guy, who she admitted to me, made out with when she was "drunk". She told me it was because she was drunk, yadi yadi ya, and me being the AFC, swallowed up all that BS. Things were still on the ropes for a long time, mostly because she couldn't figure out wtf she wanted out of our relationship and all that BS. After a while, I/we were fed up with it and I broke it off with her.

Anyways, I know that it was my fault that she lost interested. I know that I AFC'd. But that's all in the past and I've moved on.

Interesting story tonight....I ran into the guy that she made out with while we were together. I didnt recognize him at first, but recognized him after one of my buddies, who knows him was saying wassup to him and said his name.

Like the title says.... I walked up to him and slapped him. Afterwords, I simply said, "thats what you get". He actually took it very pleasantly and agreed (maybe I should have b!tch slapped him) . I was very surprised. Maybe it was my demeanor, radiating the "dont fVck with me" attitude, but i was very chill and in control of the situation. After he agreed that thats "what he deserved" and apologized, I actually thanked him for doing what he did. Because the b!tch would have cheated on me with any guy; if not him, then any other guy. The situation actually opened my eyes, and I have learned and grown so much since then (many thanks to this site). But I can truly say that I am happier than I've been in a long time.

I am not usually a very confronting/aggressive/violent person. If I was, I would have knocked his ass out. But needless to say, even tho the root of the problem boils down to me.... it felt very liberating to slap his ass. I knew that I would run into him one way or the other and was always curious to know what I would do. To me, this sort of symbolizes me going back into my DJ ways, taking a stand for myself and now, leaving that sh!t in the past.

I've been ready to move on and grow, and this was just another step towards my goal.

Enough rambling....

-Don Wha in the making
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don Wha said:
Like the title says.... I walked up to him and slapped him.
You are a girl.

Don Wha said:
Afterwords, I simply said, "thats what you get". He actually took it very pleasantly and agreed (maybe I should have b!tch slapped him) . I was very surprised.
Yes you should be surprised. If you would have touched me or anyone else, you would have been crushed.

Don Wha said:
But needless to say, even tho the root of the problem boils down to me.... it felt very liberating to slap his ass.
If you slapped him, you are not owning it. She cheated on you because YOU reverted back to AFC form. He just happened to get action because YOU caused her to lose respect for you.

OWN it.
 

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Trader said:
She cheated on you because YOU reverted back to AFC form. He just happened to get action because YOU caused her to lose respect for you.

OWN it.
THIS

the slap was pretty pointless really!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LOL. Lucky you. Slapping a man is a serious insult and you are lucky you didn't get pounded into the pavement. He must be a bigger girl than you are. Where I'm from a slap is a worse disrespect than a punch. If you slapped me I have to beat your ass on principle, a slap says, your a ***** who doesn't deserve a punch. I would have tried to break your face. Lucky you.
 

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I agree with Warrior 74- I've had drunk friends hit me and I didn't beat them into the ground. BUT I did ask them the next day if they wanted to continue what they started last night-NONE ever did. BUT a stranger? I may only hit you once,but I hope you like breathing the next 6 weeks with broken ribs.
 

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you slapped him? Do you feel like you got back your non-existent balls now? That feel better?

I feel sorry for your ex. For having the bad luck of ever being your GF
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don Wha

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Trader said:
If you slapped him, you are not owning it. She cheated on you because YOU reverted back to AFC form. He just happened to get action because YOU caused her to lose respect for you.

OWN it.
I already understood and acknowledged this in the post.

DJ_Hero said:
Some b*tch cheated on you and you blamed the guy? You weren't in a relationship with the guy, don't take it out on him.
I understand this as well. But I couldn't have him walking around town thinking that it was ok for him to hit on the girl that I was with, or any girl in the future. Believe me, this will never happen again in the future. Not because I slapped him, but because I know better to be AFC in a relationship.

Warrior74 said:
LOL. Lucky you. Slapping a man is a serious insult and you are lucky you didn't get pounded into the pavement. He must be a bigger girl than you are. Where I'm from a slap is a worse disrespect than a punch. If you slapped me I have to beat your ass on principle, a slap says, your a ***** who doesn't deserve a punch. I would have tried to break your face. Lucky you.
This was my intention. I was fully prepared to throw down with him if he wanted to, although my initial intention was to insult him and make a statement.

HolyG said:
I feel sorry for your ex. For having the bad luck of ever being your GF
I am the prize.
 

zekko

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I am the prize.
You're a prize AFC.

Like Kerpal said, it's not this guy's fault your girl's a slut. Man up, don't go around slapping people like a girl, and chalk it up to life experience.
 
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