"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Skydive or fitness

SayWhat

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Hi all

I did a couple of jumps out of a plane, I liked it but it's not like I'm waiting till the weekend to be able to jump again, I didn't think it was that special...

I also for the first time in my life just entered a gym and took a membership for a year.

But I want to know what will have the most effect for me personally, but also towards girls. What will have the most effect, telling them I skydive or just the look of me being fitter.

Of course both will be helpful, but I'm asking this, because I want to do both, but finances is basically holding me back to go for the skydiving, but I will go for it, if it helps.

Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Night-hawk

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The skydiving may rev the girls interest, especially if you could make a good story out of it, and the fitness will amplify your overall appeal. More than the two of those is what radiates from inside you. If fitness improved your looks but you radiate a **** vibe...well, you get it.
 

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There it is...if doing these things makes you happy, vs just doing it to impress broads, it will show. In fact, it will show either way...do the things you LOVE to do...women find *that* attractive...
 

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Now I'm trying to not lose my motivation from fitness, after losing 6 inches around my waist
 

foreverAFC

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fitness should just be a part of your routine day to day life

skydiving is a hobby you can do once in a while

fitness is one of the most important things in life, im not talking about looking like a bodybuilder, im talking about keeping your body strong and healthy so that you can enjoy a high quality of life for the longest amount of time possible, i have seen people at my work who make six figures being pulled out of their cubicles by firefighters because they were in such poor shape they were about to die just sitting there, your health is your most important asset, you could have all the money in the world but your life could be absolute agony if you are in poor health
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stort_Brød

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foreverAFC said:
fitness should just be a part of your routine day to day life

skydiving is a hobby you can do once in a while

fitness is one of the most important things in life, im not talking about looking like a bodybuilder, im talking about keeping your body strong and healthy so that you can enjoy a high quality of life for the longest amount of time possible, i have seen people at my work who make six figures being pulled out of their cubicles by firefighters because they were in such poor shape they were about to die just sitting there, your health is your most important asset, you could have all the money in the world but your life could be absolute agony if you are in poor health
^^^ THIS MAN.... LISTEN TO HIM

and as said it will show if you are doing it to impress the birds. If you like skydiving keep it as a hobby. Fitness should be a way of life for everyone, there are too many people living sedentary lifestyles and hey don't realise that half the medical issues they are having is from not being healthy exercising and eating properly. you have to do things for YOU not for anyone else... sure going to the gym and getting shredded or buff as will help get the girls but you realise that not only is your physical wellbeing better and more appealing but also your mental wellbeing and aura being emitted because of going to the gym having goals, being fit, the confidence boost from a great body, the mental alertness from eating right, the energy you will give off is HUGE and that is what will appeal to a lot of girls not just the muscles.... plus the more reps you get in the gym, the more you get in the bedroom ;)
 

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They knew it way back in the days of the Roman Legions...."Sound body, Sound mind"......
 
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