"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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skeletons in the closet?

bud_2005

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If you found the girl that you want to marry, does she deserve to know all about your past, even if there are some skeletons in your closet?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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And her knowing these things will help your relationship going forward in what way?
 

penkitten

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she has her own skeletons in her closet. trust me when i tell you that things do not stay buried in there forever and eventually come out on their own. can't you explain things then?
 

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bud_2005 said:
If you found the girl that you want to marry, does she deserve to know all about your past, even if there are some skeletons in your closet?
What sort of skeletons are we talking here? I think it depends on the situation and whether the likelyhood those skeletons would come out.

Beside's when it comes to women and the amount of skeletons in their closets, lets just say you won't even come close.
 
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