Ok, I'm using this whole don't talk to her first, find other things to occupy your time with, don't make her think she's like the center of your universe method..and she's now asked me 3 times if somethings wrong. I keep saying no. Should I be saying something else? Should I tell her I've felt unwanted? Do I just stick to no?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Situationn
- Thread starter anx1ety
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
Or you just stop doing this? 
Ok don't make her think she is the center of your world! She shouldn't be anyway!
Just give a break and don't get to the opposite side! Do be a busy man, Do have priorities greater than her, but she exists in your kingdom too! You have let her in, give her some attention!
For example, if you make her feel for 1 time that she is special, no gifts no love talking, just make her understand that you have a nice time while being around her she would stop asking staff like that, while knowing that you are a busy man and she is not the 1st priority!
Everything should be done within some logical lines! Don't pass those lines or you'll get the wrong conclusion...
Ok don't make her think she is the center of your world! She shouldn't be anyway!Just give a break and don't get to the opposite side! Do be a busy man, Do have priorities greater than her, but she exists in your kingdom too! You have let her in, give her some attention!
For example, if you make her feel for 1 time that she is special, no gifts no love talking, just make her understand that you have a nice time while being around her she would stop asking staff like that, while knowing that you are a busy man and she is not the 1st priority!
Everything should be done within some logical lines! Don't pass those lines or you'll get the wrong conclusion...
Tarzan the Ape Man!
Banned
Tarzan say to young Anx1ety warrior: Do not be little pansified nancy boy with you Jane and be her shoulder to cry on! Be MAN and disappear! No more communication! Or.....she will trade her tears on your shoulder and make you her Kleenex! ...And Tarzan no have to tell you what happen with use Kleenex! Unga!