Ok, I'm using this whole don't talk to her first, find other things to occupy your time with, don't make her think she's like the center of your universe method..and she's now asked me 3 times if somethings wrong. I keep saying no. Should I be saying something else? Should I tell her I've felt unwanted? Do I just stick to no?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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- Thread starter anx1ety
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
Or you just stop doing this? 
Ok don't make her think she is the center of your world! She shouldn't be anyway!
Just give a break and don't get to the opposite side! Do be a busy man, Do have priorities greater than her, but she exists in your kingdom too! You have let her in, give her some attention!
For example, if you make her feel for 1 time that she is special, no gifts no love talking, just make her understand that you have a nice time while being around her she would stop asking staff like that, while knowing that you are a busy man and she is not the 1st priority!
Everything should be done within some logical lines! Don't pass those lines or you'll get the wrong conclusion...
Ok don't make her think she is the center of your world! She shouldn't be anyway!Just give a break and don't get to the opposite side! Do be a busy man, Do have priorities greater than her, but she exists in your kingdom too! You have let her in, give her some attention!
For example, if you make her feel for 1 time that she is special, no gifts no love talking, just make her understand that you have a nice time while being around her she would stop asking staff like that, while knowing that you are a busy man and she is not the 1st priority!
Everything should be done within some logical lines! Don't pass those lines or you'll get the wrong conclusion...
Tarzan the Ape Man!
Banned
Tarzan say to young Anx1ety warrior: Do not be little pansified nancy boy with you Jane and be her shoulder to cry on! Be MAN and disappear! No more communication! Or.....she will trade her tears on your shoulder and make you her Kleenex! ...And Tarzan no have to tell you what happen with use Kleenex! Unga!