"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tennisbuck12

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So I've been dating this check (religious) for 3 months and never seemed available emotionally or on the weekends. Hard to set up dates with, but she always arranged something when she said no. So last night I askek her, should I continue to asking her out.

She responded I'm in the friend zone and she doesn't feel the chemistry. Keep in mind in 3 months I never got any play, and it bothered me but I was seeing another chick who that wasn't a problem.
Do I have a play on the friendzone girl? Should I just delete her off facebook and never contact her again. We're both 32.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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NSX-R

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You were dating that chick for 3 months, she welcomes you in the friend zone and you still believe there is hope?

Get out of here.
 

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If you're looking for a glimmer (low probability since you acted all needy), do this -

Wait for her to call you. When she does, ask her out for a date, certain as to time and place. If she agrees, go on the date where you will not even think about doing anything but have a good time, having fun on the date. If she declines, make no counter-offer. Say only, 'okay, let me know when you're free to go out'. Politely end the call right then and do not reach out to her again.

Do not call her to do this, wait.
 

mrgoodstuff

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Nope, I was hoping for a glimmer of hope
You won't have hope unless you have improved in some large way and she heard up thru the grapevine or her social circle that your making the rounds with other females. You won't gain any traction coming at this one, she needs a reason to be interested in her. Until then absence is your best friend. I'd check on her in 3 months.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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