Situation with excellent potential

[Romeo Sariani]

Greetings,

I'm taking a foreign language class twice a week, and out of 8 people 6 are girls in their twenties and pretty good.

I'm interested in one in particular, but it is very difficult to speak due to the environment: classroom is small, she comes and goes with friends all the time.

What kind of approach is adequate?

I'll add we attend the same university., and we started the course about 3 weeks ago.

Cheers

 

[flexion_]

Well if she is never alone (getting her separated is ideal) then you'll have to grab your balls and ask her to "hold on a sec" after class. Hey you want to get a coffee etc... You can use your class commonality for small talk.

Some foreign film or related event... hey I'm checking out the museum on foreign art on the weekend...wanna come along ... might work too...

Key is to just assume she likes you and go for it - if she isn't interested you can bet all her friends will know and one of the others might be... LOL

 

[Romeo Sariani]

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I have no problems approaching, but there is no time slot where I can talk.

How about grabbing her attention during the lesson and slipping her a note saying: "****tail on sunday at 5pm, sound good?"

I can ask her out in frot of her friends but it would be embarassing for her (?)

Any advice welcome

RS

 

[Romeo Sariani]

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[Panda 2000]

Or try approaching the whole group and then narrowing it down to her.

 

[ego]

"I can ask her out in frot of her friends but it would be embarassing for her (?)"


No. Don't. Seperate her from the others, and ask when she's alone.

Why? If she's around her friends she'll start thinking "Oh god.... The guy is asking me out. I wonder what my friends are thinking right now. Uhmm... I wonder what they will say if I tell him yes/no?" I'll be a harder decision for her if the friends are around.

But on the other hand she'll think "Oh... this guy got some damn self-confidence asking me out infront of my friends."

If i were you i would start some small-talks with her when the two of you are alone. Ask her what she've been doing lately, and then what she'll be up to for the weekend.

She'll probably ask you the same thing - Just tell her whatever you want.

... Then, ask "So, what's happening today then?"

If she tells you "Nothing" or "Dunno" or "Haven't decided yet", say:

"I'm going for some coffee later on, want to join and continue our conversation?"

If she tells you "Oh, I have alot to do; studying, practicing yadda yadda, painting my nails, whatever" just tell her:

"Cool... wanna join me for coffee some other day when you not are painting your nails?" [...] "I'll be busy at xxxxxx [just tell her that you're busy the next day so you doesn't sound too desparate about it] , but what about some day next week?".