"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

situation about this girl

eko

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 5, 2007
Messages
144
Reaction score
2
well I have been talking to this girl for a long while. We were 'together'. But because of our schedules we can't see each other very often.

2 nights ago there was a party. She couldn't go cause she was busy and kept texting me with how much she loved me and how much she wishes she was with me. Then apparently I kinda disappeared and didn't respond to them that well cause I was really busy (cops came and i had to run all night). so the next day my phone breaks but I contact her today and she tells me that she's been "doubting herself and unsure of what she's doing." and she also tells me that "warm fuzzy feeling" won't come back. I feel bad because I think some of this is my fault, but I want to raise her interest level back up to where it was again. I feel she is being rather selfish though and it's always about what she wants and what she needs, not me. I know it's better to stay away from this type for an LTR. But I kept giving her chances and deceiving myself into not thinking that, but now I think that's the truth.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Gangster Of Love

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2002
Messages
2,574
Reaction score
66
Age
52
Location
Los Angeles
Why aren't you spinning more plates?
 

KontrollerX

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 11, 2005
Messages
4,476
Reaction score
182
Ask yourself what you want out of a relationship.

Do you want a person thats selfish where everything is all about them.

A person who acts hot for you when you act distant.

Or...

Do you want a girl that is upfront with you about her feelings and doesn't play games with your mind and returns your love and interest with her own?

You see it doesn't matter how hot the girl is if her soul is rotten.

She'll drag you down.

Find someone good for you that you feel would enrich your life.

Not a games player.
 
Top