"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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eko

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well I have been talking to this girl for a long while. We were 'together'. But because of our schedules we can't see each other very often.

2 nights ago there was a party. She couldn't go cause she was busy and kept texting me with how much she loved me and how much she wishes she was with me. Then apparently I kinda disappeared and didn't respond to them that well cause I was really busy (cops came and i had to run all night). so the next day my phone breaks but I contact her today and she tells me that she's been "doubting herself and unsure of what she's doing." and she also tells me that "warm fuzzy feeling" won't come back. I feel bad because I think some of this is my fault, but I want to raise her interest level back up to where it was again. I feel she is being rather selfish though and it's always about what she wants and what she needs, not me. I know it's better to stay away from this type for an LTR. But I kept giving her chances and deceiving myself into not thinking that, but now I think that's the truth.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gangster Of Love

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Why aren't you spinning more plates?
 

KontrollerX

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Ask yourself what you want out of a relationship.

Do you want a person thats selfish where everything is all about them.

A person who acts hot for you when you act distant.

Or...

Do you want a girl that is upfront with you about her feelings and doesn't play games with your mind and returns your love and interest with her own?

You see it doesn't matter how hot the girl is if her soul is rotten.

She'll drag you down.

Find someone good for you that you feel would enrich your life.

Not a games player.
 
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