Sir Lancelot's DJ Bootcamp

[Hit]

i don't remember what happened yesterday :x (the board was down, couldn't post)

but uhh, today was a pretty good day i'd say. My mood was up a bit, things seem to be going a bit better over all. I spoke to the girl at the food place i go to for 5 mins or so, just talked about some random ****, made some jokes.. nothing special but i guess noteworthy on a bootcamp basis. I had a long conversation with some girl from class when I went to get coffee.. Nothing special was discussed, just some personal matters of hers and class and such.. but also I suppose a step up from typically not having conversations with random people.

That number that the girl gave me back on monday was in fact real ( i called it yesterday at work with a blocked number, her voice mail went on).. i guess it just appeared to be fake cause she appeared to be pretty uncomfortable giving it to me and i never saw the area code that she gave before.

And uhh, otherwise.. i dunno.. Can't really remember anything else really bootcamp related that is note worthy. I'm still continuing to establish eye contact every people and working on improving and bettering (sp?) myself; which i guess is about all I can do at this point.

 

[Hit]

week 3, day 4 (already???) pretty non eventful day.. The usual work, home, gym and just made it back home at 12 midnight. The usual brief conversation with the girl at the caffeteria - nothing spectacular. I had also a breif conversation with a girl at this cafe place who was making my protien shake.. she was a hb7.5, might be a prospect for later on perhaps.

Tommorow i have a resterant to go to for a 21st bday of a girl friend (not gf) of mine. I'm expecting it to be an eventful night

 

[FOL!!!]

Yeah the board was down so I couldn't respond either. Anyway, day 2 and 3 passed. I felt pretty miserable (mentally) because of some reasons, so I didn't go out...I didn't even see a HB, so...I'm still stuck to 0.

Going to check if I can do something today Keep it up people!

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Week 3, Day 7:

Well, I didn't meet the goal. Probably talked to around 3 HB's total this week. Not very good at all. I'm going to redo week 3, because I need it. I don't know why things went downhill this week, I was riding in the confidence the last 2 weeks and then suddenly when week 3 hits it's all gone! I didn't have too much free time last week to do the exercise but there WERE opportunities and I passed them up. I need to put the 3 second rule into play and just approach when I see a HB. No thinking, no analyzing, just approach with a smile. That's what I need to do. Seems like a simple thing to do on paper, but in practice the nerves will sometimes get the best of me.

I've been hanging out with my friends a lot last week because most of them are leaving for different colleges in less than two weeks. Doing BC is tough when I'm around them because I'm constantly sidetracked.

So I may fall a little behind, but it seems like I was a little ahead of you guys anyway so I shouldn't be too far behind. I'm going to redo week 3, because the results for this past week were not satisfying at all.

 

[FOL!!!]

Seems like wel all need (at least) have 2 weeks for week 3.
I missed alot of chances yesterday. There is a special event in our town this week, with a lot of hot chicks coming towards it. The problem is the atmosphere.... Talking to a woman can cause a huge fight with men...wussies with too much macho behaviour and too many 'friends' around them...so it isn't just that I'm affriad to talk to the women, I'm a little bit worried about getting into trouble with guys around them. Maybe I should pass this event for the BC.

 

[Hit]

well.. hmm

i guess to recap the weekend: friday, a pretty bad night in terms of bootcamp. I was at a girl's 21st bday, a place which should have been great to pick up girls.. it wasn't really. Out of all the girls there, one caught my attention. I had a 10-15 min conversation with her, she was from russia, just visiting the country for a little while actually. This girl was absolutely gorgeous.. completely ****ing HB10, great personality and that innocent look with that nice round ass to match.. turns out she was there with a guy i know . . .

Other then that, nothing really special. My ex-gf was there just staring at me (i dont even acknowledge her presence any more.. long story). Uhh, other then that, I didn't do to well. Just drank with friends, talked, wahtever.. nothing special at all.

Saturday wasn't much better in terms of bootcamp. It was a different friend's party, and he was having it in his girlfriends house in the Hamptons. HUGE ****ing house, big outdoor pool, a lot of hot girlies. I didn't have bootcamp in mind at all, hell.. i bombed out pretty badly with the girlies also, i went from having tremendous confidence ALWAYS to having an absurdly low one. .i think i might be getting depressed or something. But anyway, just spent a lot of time drinking and talking to people. There were two HB9s sitting down by the pool, with their little cute white panties showing under their short skirts.. and for some reason i pussied out, didn't approach them.. come back 5 minutes later, theyre talking to my friends, 10 mins later their hooking up. (doh!) Uhh, I had 2 good conversations with new girls, both hb7s.. One of them was ****ing great up until the point where i screwed up.. i forgot her name, and said something pretty dumb. This girl goes "thats too bad" with an upset look on her face when i said that, and turns around and leaves. That was after we had a good 15-20 min conversation, she initiated kino, and started grabbing my ass when i wasn't really paying attention to her. p0w indeed. The story of my life i guess? Always have it soooo close but yet let it slip. Definetly need to change that.

I'm not happy with my week 3 results, even though i may have talked to 10 girls, there was nothing accomplished during this week, at all. If anything i'm taking steps back. I think a big part of it has to do with my current state: high pressure and high stress job, **** going on with my social life.. where as before it used to be that I was the life of the party ALWAYS, always the alpha, always funny and ****.. now it's like everything just fell apart.. All of my friend's kinda split up doing their all thing, and even though i know a bunch of people who i'm friendly with and I pretty much always have something to do or somewhere to go with a crowd, i don't really consider them to be great friends. My mood has kinda been down hill, and it's like it's been leading me into a downward spirial - - something i have been trying hard to get out of. I plan to stay on track with improving my situation, a big part of which at this point is successfully completing DJ bootcamp.

So, heres what im going to do: I'm going to reread week 3 and read week 4, try to integrate and refresh the ideas. I believe week 4 is the one where you have to get rejected a number of times, so i'll try and integrate the two of them together perhaps. Rejection is a good thing taking into consideration that it's all a numbers game, going for negatives will at the very least get you closer to the positive, and hopefully you'll be walking away having learned a thing or two of what works and what doesn't following the rejection.

It's good to see that the both of you are still onboard here.. let's do what we started off doing, putting all bull**** aside. Because I know damn well for a fact that no mater how busy all of us are, and how much negative **** is going on around us, the successful completion of what we have set out to do here will at the very least put a big smile and a ****y satisfied grin on each of our faces. Failure to succeed will lead to nothing but a life time of AFCedness and would have wasted at this point at LEAST 3 weeks of your time, and that to me is not an option.

 

[FOL!!!]

Saturdaynight I'm going outta town with a friend to the place he lives...and I'll try to do week 3 and 4 in 1 night haha
If that works out (and it ****ing should! I already told him and someone else about it, so I would be emberassed if I didn't do it) I probably have a much easier time trying it with cold approaches.

Anyway, I now (at this moment and past few days) see it as fun to go up to a woman and just make a conversation....the better it goes, the more fun it is, the harder I screw up, the funnier it is...so either way, I'll try it all... Well, almost all...well, oke not even close to all, but enough to finish this week or something

Oh yeah, my friend has a camera on his phone, I'll ask him to make pictures...so now I have some kind of obligation to post some pics here eh?

 

[Hit]

where the **** are the daily reports, /me pokes sirlancelot.

so... Today (monday)was a pretty decent day, busy as hell at work and ****. My secretary at my other office wants me, and the only way I achieved that is that I always ignore her, treat her like just another employee (even though shes a hb9)..

but uhh, i kinda continued on with week 3, had conversations (one about 15 minutes +, another 5 or so) with new girls who i met in class.. both were ugly, so i didn't even bother for the number close.. but.. yeah. I'm getting more out of my shell, so this bootcamp is definetly having SOME effect.. i just wish i would have kept it in mind on saturday when i was surrounded by ALL these HBs whom i never met before and had perfect chances at progressing with. Ah well, live and learn, and try not to make the same mistakes twice

 

[FOL!!!]

Well, my live is pretty dead at the moment lol.... Alot of my friends with who I hang out with are on vacation. It's vacation, and I have my own company, so there is no contact with HB's either. I should just go out and talk to some, but cold approaches on HB's on a regular day...oef...I (you, all of us) should do that actually... Make it something fun...argh thinking to much again. I'll quit posting here until I got some new successes.

 

[Hit]

what the fcuk is going on here? what are you a bunch of fcking quiters or something?

i have tuff sh1t going on in my life too, i RUN two high stress and highly time consuming businesses, and i go to college. Big ****ing deal.. the point of bootcamp is not to continue your existance as sorry ass AFCs but make something better out of yourselfs.. ****, all your friends are gone, go make new ones. No new girls, go to the mall or bar and meet some.

Now, with the report that I gave my word that I would complete (even though it's 3:20am, i just made it home from an office trying to complete work thats urgently due, and i need to wake up at 6am to make it to another job which i'm just starting at 8am).. (AHEM, busy, *cough)

so..... today was a pretty good day considering my time constraints. The usual eye contact with everyone at and around work, usual hellos to women in the elevators and at the cafeteria..

in class, i had a few breif conversations with some mediocre girls, and got a number off another girl (not someone i'm interested in.. but i wanted to copy my take home final off of her).. also took down the number of some kid to take his answers down as well because he was around the girl when i asked her, so it seemed appropriate (even though the both of them didn't exchange numbers with each other, only with me). Uhh, I went to a lounge to meet up with a buddy of mine to talk business after school, there were some cute girls, one of which was sitting down next to a toy stuffed bunny. I looked at her, established eye contact for a second, and she smiled and kinda winked over.. I looked away, kept talking with my friend, and noticed she kept looking at me, so i turned to her and told her she had a nice bunny (/shrug.. it seemed appropriate?) She blushed, smiled, and kinda blushed and looked away.. I went back to my conversation with my friend. We exchanged smiles before we left.. i shoulda taken a number down or something, but this is something which i definetly need to work on.

Overall.. making improvements I guess, but still need to overcome a few preexisting barriers which have been implanted into me and keep me spiraling around the ugly loop of AFCedness.

NOW, you lazy ****s.. don't quit on me, and more importantly don't quit on yourselfs.. i'll be VERY pissed off if by the end of all this time, i'll be the only one posting reports which no one would read, and would have no on going support from my fello RAFCs. So quit ****ing around and making up excuses and start making moves. Don't let me down, and more important DON'T LET YOURSELVES DOWN.

 

[FOL!!!]

I hear ya, and I keep reading, so keep on posting... I'll come up with a report within the next three days, I promise. (to you and myself). Thanks for the words though...I agree 100% and it is another kick in the ass!
SirLancelot: where the F*** are you? you should keep it going as well...three people going from AFC to DJ, how cool would that be??

 

[Hit]

k so... today was a relatively normal average day.. nothing special at all.

A few smiles and exchanges of eye contact from cashiers, and that's about all the contact i had with people who i didn't know...


In a better mood, and things are going along pretty well so i'm not complanining.


ALSO.. don't quit you ****ing guys. Not only are you letting down the group, the forum, and myself.. but more importantly you are letting YOURSELF down.Don't do it.

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Whoa, whoa chill Hit lol. I didn't have access to a computer for a while. I'm still in this sh*t.

I've been doing better this week. I've got about 5 conversations so far. Mostly just petty conversation though, nothing too deep, but it's better than nothing. I'm going to a big party on Saturday, so I'm thinking I'll probably get the other 5 there.

I'll make tomorrow count too though, I'll find some place where the females blossom and get it on.

Confidence is a wierd thing, some days I feel like I'm on top of the world, and other days I don't even feel like trying.

The good thing is, I'm doing the Hi's and the eye contact naturally with everyone who passes me, except for shifty looking people =). So I'm definitely more confident than when I started, but not anywhere near where I want to be yet.

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Week 3, Day 5:

Talked to 3 girls that I didn't know at a party. It was a little bonfire party up at my friends property. I had seen these girls around before (they were from my school) but I had never officially met them.

My count is 8 as it stands right now, 2 more to go for the weekend.

 

[Hit]

Originally posted by Sir Lancelot
Whoa, whoa chill Hit lol. I didn't have access to a computer for a while. I'm still in this sh*t.

I've been doing better this week. I've got about 5 conversations so far. Mostly just petty conversation though, nothing too deep, but it's better than nothing. I'm going to a big party on Saturday, so I'm thinking I'll probably get the other 5 there.

I'll make tomorrow count too though, I'll find some place where the females blossom and get it on.

Confidence is a wierd thing, some days I feel like I'm on top of the world, and other days I don't even feel like trying.

The good thing is, I'm doing the Hi's and the eye contact naturally with everyone who passes me, except for shifty looking people =). So I'm definitely more confident than when I started, but not anywhere near where I want to be yet.

Good to see you're still with us :woo:

As far as your quote on condifence... i couldn't agree with you more, but.. i have been trying to push myself to keep the DJ mentality going for me. Take last night, for example.. It was a friend's birthday party at his house, not too many new people becides a few girls who were already taken. I was feeling kinda sleepy, tired, and after a few shots i was already passing out.. didn't stay at that party for long, and went to a lounge with some other friends.. It was some other girls bday who i didn't know, but the lounge was more like a bar.. I was just talking to my friends, and then the DJ thing kinda clicked into me.. and I saw some hottie walking by (i've seen her before, never talked to her), and started talking to her. I just go " I know you from somewhere.., what's your name?" to initiate the conversation.. she says something along the lines of "i dont know, and named some club which i've recently been to".. and me being otherwise bored, i decide to **** around a bit - "weren't you at the --- club on july 4th weekend?" Miraculasely enough, she was (i didnt remember/realize that at the moment).. I say "uhh, im not sure cause my memory is a little blurry from that night,.. but weren't you the girl i was hooking up with?" She gets a bedazzled look on her face, and says "I don't think so".. I continue "You had that nice little short skirt with that nice ass hanging out a little bit" (another lucky guess, turns out she had a skirt on).

Well, whatever, to make a long story short she and a friend of mine were actually hooking up, so I didn't get any ass last night. However, i'm pretty sure she was sending lots of buying signals.. and I just wasn't good enough in my game to be able to interprete them correctly and properly act on them. (IE. were sitting in a diner later with a bunch of people, and she goes "don't you want to get laid tonight?" with a smirk on her face) I think some of my problem might be that i'm too much of a ****y ashole at times (maybe not??).

So uhh, I added 5 or so additional conversations with new women. No number closes (but no real interest in any girls whos number I would normally want anyway) I'm not there yet, but i'm definetly improving.

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Week 3, Day 6:

I got 3 more conversations. I went to a friend of mine's picnic thing and there were a few females there that I didn't know. I went over there and talked to them for a little bit, maybe a little longer than 5 minutes. They were all more or less HB7s. I shoulda sprung for their numbers ..

My conversation count is at 11 but I'm still gonna go out today and get some more.

Next week is rejection week, it's where we build our immunity to rejection and conquer the world fellas

 

[FOL!!!]

Darn, you guys are doing good! The day after tomorrow there is a party at a friends place...Probably around 5 girls and 25 men...I should approach at least 2 of them, but it depends on the atmosphere (I ****ing hate these kind of sitting parties). but I should at least say hi to one of em.

I kept going with week 2 god damn decent though... Like, up to 3 people a frikking day... So that's good. I added some chicks on msn as well (on a fake account) just to test some **** from Dav1d Deagelo and damn...it frikkin works. She was already into me lol.

Anyway, I have to come up with some **** to meet women more.... Libraries or something? The parties are dead here and the weather sucks, so no chicks on the street (and street approaches are the hardest (for me)). I'll try some shops or something tomorrow.

Week 3, day whatever, count: 0

 

[Hit]

...I was just thinking today while driving, looking back at all the chances with hotties which i have passed up or ****ed up simply cause of my AFCedness.. and it simply can not go on. Gota make sure to correct that. As challenging as it may be.. it needs to be done.

So uhh, As far as the report: yesterday.. nothing too special, chilled out.. a few breif conversatiosn with some new girls over at a friend's house (they were taken, not of interest to me). Today (sunday) has been a pretty laid back day, got some sleep.. home most of the time.

Good to see the you're still here FOL and SirLancelot :woo: Let's finish what we started.

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Originally posted by FOL!!!
Darn, you guys are doing good! The day after tomorrow there is a party at a friends place...Probably around 5 girls and 25 men...I should approach at least 2 of them, but it depends on the atmosphere (I ****ing hate these kind of sitting parties). but I should at least say hi to one of em.

I kept going with week 2 god damn decent though... Like, up to 3 people a frikking day... So that's good. I added some chicks on msn as well (on a fake account) just to test some **** from Dav1d Deagelo and damn...it frikkin works. She was already into me lol.

Anyway, I have to come up with some **** to meet women more.... Libraries or something? The parties are dead here and the weather sucks, so no chicks on the street (and street approaches are the hardest (for me)). I'll try some shops or something tomorrow.

Week 3, day whatever, count: 0

Finding a good place is tough. I've had mild success at parks but for the most part its just old people walking around there. The girls I've met this week I met at parties and such, but you can only meet so many new people at a party .. especially when you party with the same people all the time.

I'd imagine that bookstores, libraries, cafe's, coffee shops, etc. are probably some good places. I've even heard that the magazine aisle of a department store is a hotspot, but I haven't ventured down there yet

 

[FOL!!!]

I've been too the big city today, enough people there!

I came up with this idea:

I made up 5 questions relating to music (including how they feel if they listen to music etc) and I would just talk to them as a reasearcher and if I was interested in them, I would say something along the lines "Btw, not concering the reasearch...and your bad taste of music...you seem like a fun person and if you write your phone number down here we'll have a drink and an interesting conversation later".

So the fear of not knowing what to say to girls is solved this way, because I already made up the questions! ****ty part is, that THIS is my biggest problem...approaching the "*****es" I missed some very good chances and when looking at the sale of dvd's in a store a girl (she wasn't hot anyway, but it was a good chance) took a dvd I own myself already and which I like...could have made a comment about it.

Anyway this tactic should work and I should try it this way again tomorrow or something (When typing this, a h otti walked by the window here lol ). One HB9 came up to me as some kind of seller and asked if I wanted to get coupons for cheaper dvd's and such...I had a short conversation (like 2 minutes) with her, because I was really not into that seller's bul ****. Stupid me though, I could have asked her about my music questions! heh...but I didn't...

So, I got 1 now, still not happy about it. Good thing is, I cold approached a guy, to get back into the street approaches.
yesterday I talked to another guy in the cafeteria etc so that's going pretty decent. Now I have to overcome the fear of walking up to women (that's the issue of week 3!) but I'm back in the game people. Tomorrow I got a party and I'll probably go back to 'the big city'.