REPORTING FOR DUTY SIR...oh..
Ehm, today started week 2 for me.
I only had around 36 hi's, but I felt comfortable enough with it, so I started to do week 2.
I have a question about week 1 though. How the hell can I get eye contact with girls better?
Really, all the women seem to look down, or whatever...it's damn hard to get eye-contact and
I don't say hi, if they aren't watching. They just don't look at the frikking environment. At no one!
(At least, that's the idea that I get). And many people seem to be scared as well. I look at them, and
they pvssy out at less than a second and watch continue the ground, as if they are
gold diggers.
So, is there a way to get to their attention? Just say 'hi' when they don't look at you?
Anyway week 2 report. FOUR conversations today. I started walking from my house to town today instead of taking the car. It's a 15 minute walk I think (maybe a bit less). So I went walking and just said some hi's, which just feels relaxed and normal and not to forget SOCIAL, when I get eye-contact at the right distance with them. And I noticed that when you get eye-contact and smiley, they start to smile and actually say hi first. So I went to town and when I was almost there I saw a guy working in the garden, he was almost finished and I wanted to say it's good weather for it and if he was almost finished (hey there is a back yard as well), but I chickened out and kept walking...for christ sake, this was not what my frikking goal was! So I kept on going and started to think what a pvssy I was. Then just like a minute later I saw an old grandpa walking with some kind of device to keep him walking (I dunno the english word...rollator?) and I saw him at a distance and said to myself...chickening out (like I did a minute ago) is worse!, so I followed him (he didn't see me
) and then just a few metres away from him, he sat down at a low brick wall to have a rest. And I asked if he was doing oke. He was, then I kinda asked/said it was a nice day to walk, and he started about it was a bit too humid for his age. And I stood there and me being nervous just shined through how I stood. I didn't know where to keep my hands and ****. I asked him where he lived and if he had lived here for a long time already. He lived here all his life and liked it way better in the past, when it was a small town. I wasn't relaxed at all, but we had a small conversation. I guess like 2 minutes, and I wasn't really having fun, but I know I had to go through this! The start was the worst. I interfered him talking. I felt stupid about that! Oh well, sh1t happens and I kept listening again. Then I said goodbye and moved on. Not bad, I did it!! Great feeling, alltough I was aware about the fact I looked nervous. Then I came to some kind of bridge which was only 15 cm above the surface of the water and I saw an old lady, and 2 kids and a ~30 year old looking at the water and poking with a stick in the water. I asked what was going on and they told me there was a RC boat stuck between the water and the bridge. they asked if I thought they could step into the water with their boots, but I didn't think they would get it without getting wet
Anyway this was a short conversation. We looked at the water a bit, so I think we spend like 2 minutes and not a really good conversation, but because I went up to them and asked what was going on, I count this one.
I kept on walking back to town, I walked up to an older lady with a pram (?) and the approach was very funny.
I walked up to her from behind (I kept the distance between us a few metres, so it didn't look like I would sneak up to her.) I said 'hi' and then continued walking and I thought "God damn, I'm neglecting talking again!" So after a few seconds I turned around a bit and said "a nice day to walk eh" and she was stumbled and didn't really talk. I walked up to her and asked some other question. And then she said:
'But, I don't know you'
And I said "I don't know you either! Just making a conversation..."
then she said 'oh nice' and we kept talking. Hah I found that funny. But I noticed I was still nervous!
The last (4th) one was the best of the day. I saw a guy sitting at a bench. And I walked pretty far away from him. Then I walked away but though "damn, go talking!" and I walked in a circle and got back to him. I asked if I could sit next to him and he was allright with that. I again started about the nice weather (I guess I have to quite that right?) and then I asked him if he was waiting for someone. Hetold me his wife was buying gifts. And I asked if it was for his grandchildren. And the conversation continued about their grandchildren coming back (that's why they bought the presents) from a 4 week vacation, and they were just back from vacation and such and he asked me if I would go on vacation. I noticed I had some silent moments now and then, but then he started talking and this was nice.
But the gift of today was when his wife came back. And the guy said to his wife "You could have stayed away longer...I'm having a nice conversation here." that felt so good!
So that was it for today. I got tired of walking (was walking for an hour). The last conversation was way better than the first one (from my side) and everyone I approached was willing to talk... But I didn't expect much difference from older people, they seem to be more social, but I think they are just less shy.
I said hi to some chicks as well, which was good.
Soo...I think and hope I'll pass the 10 people easily after 6 days (6 instead of 7, because then I'm back on track with the rest of you). first step seemed hard, the last one was easy! So great improvement today! I know I have to continue this for at least 6 days every day! Otherwise the nerves get back to me, but today was succesful. At least the midday was! I'll get back tonight I think.
Rock on!
