"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Sinking the ship on Valentines day?

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So my question is:
Would wishing someone a Happy Valentines Day sink the ship?

Coz I've read all them articles about lose lips sink ships, never confess to a girl you like her, blah blah blah. BUT! Giving a girl a call and simple saying, "Happy Valentines day", would that tell her I like her and weird her out? I dunno. Was planning on doing nothing. Shes still in school, I'm finished. But my sis came home and said, "So did you do anything for Sarah?"
Me: "Nope"
Sis: "Ohh not a good move, gotta do something".
Wouldn't it be all weird? Spose depends on the situation, but generally speaking?

Cheers thanks for the help
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Personally I think that if you like the girl, she would probably have felt some of those vibes by now, so calling her and saying happy valentines to her wouldn't really blow your cover (that you like her) , it would probably show that you care and could possibly win yourselves some points? but getting her something would be different as you would need planning and since she is not your valentine, it wouldn't be necessary to get gifts. Thats just my 2 cents on the situation, correct me if I'm wrong.
 
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oh well, with a 1.7mil population in Brisbane, there are bound to be more easy pickings :D
 

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Originally posted by redbyte
:down: boooo that sucked. how awkward.
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lol for some reason that made me laugh.

Oh well, no big deal. Lots of things are awkward.
 
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Originally posted by redbyte
:down: boooo that sucked. how awkward.
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What happened?

Convo?

You prob went wrong somewhere so we can give pointers if you right what you said?
 
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Her: Hello?
Me: Heyyy, happy valentines day.
Her: ...you too.
Me: mmm...
[pause]
Me: Soooo...

She was doing some heavy homework. Quite possibly I disrupted her workflow.
Bah! And I thought chicks appreciated this crap.
It's not like we don't get along. We went to the formal together, we kino each other frequently, she invited me to camp with her about a month ago, our group of friends are quite positive she's into me and tell me frequently to, "hurry up and ask her out". Never fear Captain Procrastination is here! So maybe I waited too long. Phone call wasn't all that bad, lasted for 18mins. My guess is she was tired, yeah.... I'll go with that. :cool:
Live 'n' learn.
 
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18 minutes?! jesus.

my last phone call with a prospect: 3 minutes. i checked. i thought we'd been on the phone too long, actually.
 
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Originally posted by redbyte
Her: Hello?
Me: Heyyy, happy valentines day.
Her: ...you too.
Me: mmm...
[pause]
Me: Soooo...

She was doing some heavy homework. Quite possibly I disrupted her workflow.
Bah! And I thought chicks appreciated this crap.
It's not like we don't get along. We went to the formal together, we kino each other frequently, she invited me to camp with her about a month ago, our group of friends are quite positive she's into me and tell me frequently to, "hurry up and ask her out". Never fear Captain Procrastination is here! So maybe I waited too long. Phone call wasn't all that bad, lasted for 18mins. My guess is she was tired, yeah.... I'll go with that. :cool:
Live 'n' learn.
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I would never ring someone to say Happy Valentines day.....Its not a big celebrational day. You would have been better dropping her a card or rose......
 

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hmm interesting thread.

I *almost* wanted to make some sort of a nice gesture for my oneitis (who has a boyfriend lol) but then decided no way. AFC move.

I'd rather let her wonder about whether I like her or not. In fact, I am 100% sure that her boyfriend is not going to do sh!t for her, but her many admirers that are constantly chasing her will do stupid crap like send her flowers. I don't wanna be one of those dudes. I wanna be one of the guys she chases instead.
 
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I'm with Egoist on this.

I have several prospects that I'm not doing anything for Valentines. Why? I'll let them figure out why. Am I busy? Who am I with? What are they doing? I bet the V-day sex he's having is hot. Whatever little fantasies these women will cook up in their head will have more/better effect than anything I could buy/do/say for on Valentine's Day.
 
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caf caf caf!

Originally posted by redbyte
Her: Hello?
Me: Heyyy, happy valentines day.
Her: ...you too.
Me: mmm...
[pause]
Me: Soooo...

She was doing some heavy homework. Quite possibly I disrupted her workflow.
Bah! And I thought chicks appreciated this crap.
It's not like we don't get along. We went to the formal together, we kino each other frequently, she invited me to camp with her about a month ago, our group of friends are quite positive she's into me and tell me frequently to, "hurry up and ask her out". Never fear Captain Procrastination is here! So maybe I waited too long. Phone call wasn't all that bad, lasted for 18mins. My guess is she was tired, yeah.... I'll go with that. :cool:
Live 'n' learn.
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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