That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
agreed... now GET OUT THERE!Originally posted by MindOverMatter
get off the chair, go out into the world and meet girls. if you magically expect them to come to you, there is a good chance that you will be single everyday, not just valentines day.
Originally posted by
Desdinova
The chick eats all the candy, gains 3 lbs, the flowers die in 3 days, and everything goes back to normal again. Big deal.
The problem with Valentine's day is she's expecting something. Most likely she's expecting candy, flowers, balloons, and a card. If she gets what she expects, it's not special.the fact that u DID buy her the roses and candy DOES change things
Originally posted by Desdinova
The problem with Valentine's day is she's expecting something. Most likely she's expecting candy, flowers, balloons, and a card. If she gets what she expects, it's not special.
Do her a favor. Buy her a frying pan, a bag of chips, and a Judas Priest CD. Autograph the CD by writing "Happy Valentine's Day - Rob Halford"
I guarantee that'll give her more memories than the traditional Valentine's Day gifts.
I still think the solution is to turn it completely.
Let her know, you expect to be taken out and given stuff, if she doesn't she won't get any sex for a week and you will stomp around the place and be heavy handed with kitchen utensils.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Originally posted by Phoenix_of_the_ashes
I think valentines day is the best day NOT to have a girl.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Originally posted by Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Because you dont have to spend money on bull****.
Why not? I got my woman a spatula and a card on our first Valentine's day together. The spatula was way cheaper than a rose. I guess I could've made it more special by engraving her name in the handle with a dremel.Your theory is correct... u must give her the unexpected nice, and good thinking. But i wouldnt exactly buy her the stuff that u mentioned
Originally posted by Desdinova
Why not? I got my woman a spatula and a card on our first Valentine's day together. The spatula was way cheaper than a rose. I guess I could've made it more special by engraving her name in the handle with a dremel.
Note to self: take the funnel to the engravers this weekend.
Originally posted by Desdinova
Basically, I take the seriousness and commercialism out of Valentine's day and poke fun at the holiday itself. I'll get her something completely unromantic, attach one of those little cards that say "A special gift for a special someone" to it, and give it to her.
The only real serious thing I give her is a card. Unfortunately, you can't get away with being completely unromantic.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.