"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Single mother brings hyperactive kid to an adult party

ThisNThat

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There's this one attractive single mother that comes to our game nights, but she brings her young elementary school-aged child to the events all the time.

I guess she has full custody and not alternating weekends. I think some dues like her, but the kid seems rather hyper...he bores easily and last night, he kept "doing laps" nonsensically around the house and was quite distracting when focusing on games.

I knew of another single mother that did this at a Superbowl party, the ONLY kid at the party. Almost swear these are the helicopter mom types.

If she wanted to bring a man repellent with her, she's succeeded.

Would this be a deal breaker? Don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't like kids...but the whole "bring your kids to an adult saturated event doesn't seem fair to the kid either.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If she can't tell the kid 'no,' then she's never going to let you, either. That is the ultimate deal-breaker, which is bound to happen, because obviously she can't discipline the kid.

I visited a very authentic Mexican restaurant once, noticed there were two very small children there who belonged to the family who owned it, right as I sat down, and groaned to myself. Oh great...kids. The entire time I was there, those little Mexican kids did not make a sound. They sat and colored in coloring books, not a peep out of them. I get the feeling they had rather strict parents, at least about annoying the customers.
 
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