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Single Moms prefer you have kids or no?

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I've been targeting single moms recently and had a question around strategy...

Do you think they would prefer you have kids?

Do you think they would prefer if you didn't have kids?

Do you think they wouldn't care either way?

The last few I hooked up with, I was honest and said I didn't have any kids. I guess women are women and wouldn't want any potential attention distractions other than themselves. On the other hand maybe they see a man in his 40's without kids as a red flag and feel someone with a kid "gets it" it more and would prefer it.

I could always make up that I have a child if it helps build rapport quicker... thoughts?
 

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Stop overthinking it, and don't lie. And why TF are you targeting single moms?

If you had kids then it would make sense to target single moms because they will "get it" but at that point you run the risk of the kids getting sexual with eachother since they're not actually related.
 

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Stop overthinking it, and don't lie. And why TF are you targeting single moms?

If you had kids then it would make sense to target single moms because they will "get it" but at that point you run the risk of the kids getting sexual with eachother since they're not actually related.
Dude, quit watching so much porn....
 

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Stop overthinking it, and don't lie. And why TF are you targeting single moms?

If you had kids then it would make sense to target single moms because they will "get it" but at that point you run the risk of the kids getting sexual with eachother since they're not actually related.
Huh? I just want to smash lol
 

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There's a comedy movie, Hugh Grant/Rachel Weize "About a Boy". He pretends to have a kid to pick up
single moms. Again! It's a comedy..
 

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There's a comedy movie, Hugh Grant/Rachel Weize "About a Boy". He pretends to have a kid to pick up
single moms. Again! It's a comedy..
I've picked them up with them knowing I have no kids but was just wondering if maybe it's better for building rapport if you say you have one too.

Anyway I think milfs are good to bang.
 

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There's a comedy movie, Hugh Grant/Rachel Weize "About a Boy". He pretends to have a kid to pick up
single moms. Again! It's a comedy..
I'll have to watch that one lol
 

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Never had a problem one way or another

Why would anyone lie about it and who cares what she thinks.
It should be up to your standards and what you are looking for.

Personally I don’t have a problem with single moms but the kid(s) have to be old enough to look after themselves. Unless there’s some 50/50 agreement with the dad. This way I’m not competing for their time and we can do things spontaneously.
 

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Never had a problem one way or another

Why would anyone lie about it and who cares what she thinks.
It should be up to your standards and what you are looking for.

Personally I don’t have a problem with single moms but the kid(s) have to be old enough to look after themselves. Unless there’s some 50/50 agreement with the dad. This way I’m not competing for their time and we can do things spontaneously.
How about just to bang without giving a F about a relationship?
 

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I've been targeting single moms recently and had a question around strategy...

Do you think they would prefer you have kids?

Do you think they would prefer if you didn't have kids?

Do you think they wouldn't care either way?

The last few I hooked up with, I was honest and said I didn't have any kids. I guess women are women and wouldn't want any potential attention distractions other than themselves. On the other hand maybe they see a man in his 40's without kids as a red flag and feel someone with a kid "gets it" it more and would prefer it.

I could always make up that I have a child if it helps build rapport quicker... thoughts?
I don't think they care whether you have kids. What they would like is that you had a lot of money and time to spend on looking after their kids.
 

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I know I had a standard for an LTR of a woman who had kids as old or older than mine. Reasons being:
  • I did not want to extend my parenting years longer than I already was signed on for
  • I wanted a woman who would nurture and love my kids. A woman who has raised children has a completely more selfless approach vs. a woman who never had children.
Now when it came to ONS, their parenting status was irrelevant. Except that if they were a single parent their time was very limited and they were not going to mess around if a lay was on the table. If they were relationship seeking, they were going to be much more coy. But if they were Horny and had a 3 hour window , they want to get down to business while the kids are away.
 

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Not important if you have kids or not but let's be honest here, you're asking the wrong questions. It's about what you want, not what they might think/want and then cater to that and consider lieing? Seriously? That will fall back on you tenfold.
You're reacting instead of being the prize and acting. Work on your mindset.
The only reason you would target single moms specifically is because they're the lowest hanging fruit on the dating market and you feel you can't do better or you would want to build up some confidence by having some easy lays, but let me tell you that this is the wrong road to travel.
Self improvement and raising your standards would be much much better ROI (Return on Investment).

Dude, quit watching so much porn....
@Kotaix is right. That's a big thing that Rich Cooper keeps hammering about when being with a single mom (he has alot of experience on the topic).
 

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Single Moms are women who cannot keep a man.

As for what they want...they want to have fun on their schedule.

They like having 100% control of what resources they have without giving up any control to a man because they were taught women can have it all.
 

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Not important if you have kids or not but let's be honest here, you're asking the wrong questions. It's about what you want, not what they might think/want and then cater to that and consider lieing? Seriously? That will fall back on you tenfold.
You're reacting instead of being the prize and acting. Work on your mindset.
The only reason you would target single moms specifically is because they're the lowest hanging fruit on the dating market and you feel you can't do better or you would want to build up some confidence by having some easy lays, but let me tell you that this is the wrong road to travel.
Self improvement and raising your standards would be much much better ROI (Return on Investment).


@Kotaix is right. That's a big thing that Rich Cooper keeps hammering about when being with a single mom (he has alot of experience on the topic).
There are a lot of attractive mothers. Hence the coining of the word MILF.

I think they make for great lays :)
 

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If a single mom cares whether you have kids, next her. She's either wanting a "perfect match" or close to it, or she's being overly scrutinizing. If it matters to her, she's prob looking for an LTR. If you're looking to simply smash, this is a good litmus test for compliance. Single moms open to something casual will not make a big deal out of it.
 

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If a single mom cares whether you have kids, next her. She's either wanting a "perfect match" or close to it, or she's being overly scrutinizing. If it matters to her, she's prob looking for an LTR. If you're looking to simply smash, this is a good litmus test for compliance. Single moms open to something casual will not make a big deal out of it.
I'm also not against making her think I'm long term potential then just nexting her. They don't care with us why should we with them?
 
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