Single, childless and 45 year old woman: what is RIGHT with you?

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A 45 year old childless single woman believes her date asked too many questions trying to find what's wrong with her, instead of what's right her.


Her date asked her these questions:

"Have you ever been married?"
"Have you come close? Like engaged or lived with someone?"
"When was your last long-term relationship?
"But you're attractive and smart. I can't believe you haven't had a boyfriend in a while,"
"Like how long?" my date continues. "How many years?"
"That's OK," Brian offers as consolation. "Some people aren't interested in having a serious relationship."
"So, what's the issue?" he asks. "I can't believe you would still be single. You must be picky."
"Some people choose to focus on their careers and some choose to have families,"
"I have a friend who admits she spent too much time focused on her career and not her dating life," Brian says, like it's a diagnosis: "Career-Womanitis."
"Brian, if you spend the rest of our date searching for what's wrong with me, you'll never discover what's right with me,"
He hails a cab and asks me for a second date.
"Yes," I say. "I'd like that." I'm open to a relationship, after all.


Does she have a point? Should her date have focused on what is RIGHT with a single / childless / 45 year old woman?
 
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I quite like the cut of his jib, so I read the article. A few quick things.

Qualification:
"The date is off to a great start. But soon enough, his tone changes. Brian has decided it's time to find out what's wrong with me "

DHV out the arse:
"my dates prove their ability to be in a relationship."

He's not sold:
Brian presses his lips together in judgment

She ain't daft:
"But you're attractive and smart. I can't believe you haven't had a boyfriend in a while," Brian says, but I know his flattery is a guise.

Friends with benefits zone, disqualification, and placing a woman accordingly:
"That's OK," Brian offers as consolation. "Some people aren't interested in having a serious relationship."

Encourage drinking and loosening of boundaries/tongues/garments/etc:
My date pours more wine into my glass from the carafe we're sharing

More DHV:
"Our conversation moves on to entrepreneurship, a passion we share. He goes first, and I'm sincerely impressed."

Polarity:
But for my date, he's not so much interested in my work, but in how my career might be the root-cause of my singlehood.

She can't get enough of Brian:
He hails a cab and asks me for a second date.
"Yes," I say. "I'd like that." I'm open to a relationship, after all.

Brian is a dark horse. She doesn't actually seem that bad considering, quite feminine. But he did pick at the right missing part. As with the polarity and realization on her part that he doesn't give much of a sh1t about her career and her trying to compete on that level.
 

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I don't know how many men I've gone out with or how many men I've kissed or been intimate with or how many men I've lost to what was simply not meant to be. I don't count the men because, in the end, they are all one closer to one that will be the One.
She lost "The One" a very long time ago, and she's been trying to replace him ever since.

"Brian, if you spend the rest of our date searching for what's wrong with me, you'll never discover what's right with me," I say
Well, she's got a pvssy and doesn't have to hire a babysitter whenever he needs to blow his load. That's probably about it though.
 

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Hilarious

So now we're not allowed to ask 45 year old women what they've done with their life. Are we supposed to pretend that it's ok to have achieved basically nothing except for a backlog of men she can't even recall the amount of?

The Career card is a useless nonsensical paradox and let me explain why... Women will always date UPWARDS. So in what world will a man be impressed with a woman's job if she's always a pay grade below him? Opps
 
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She's a female version of an incel.

Incel dudes want sex but can't get it.

Incel ladies want families and kids and can't get it.
 

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I wouldn't want to date a married woman with two kids so tbh single and childless is better than the alternative lol
 

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She's a female version of an incel.

Incel dudes want sex but can't get it.

Incel ladies want families and kids and can't get it.
A better term would be "insing" (involuntarily single).
 

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A better term would be "insing" (involuntarily single).
incat - involuntarily cat lady

inohag - involuntarily old hag

innochild - involuntarily childless

infem - involuntarily feminist

inbit - involuntarily bitter

inbitfem - involuntarily bitter feminist

inbitfemcat - involuntarily bitter feminist cat lady

increoldksofthaoh - involuntary creepy old lady all the kids are scared off and avoid on Halloween
 

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The simple fact of a date with a middle aged woman sounds totally alien to me, cant really comment on this.

Women my age are already a no fly zone to me and Im in my mid 30s.
 
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my apartment is clean and soothing! no kids, no live in guy. i have disposable income and have the time and money to do fun things like trips, concerts, hiking, etc. Also any men i date get my undivided attention when i am with them as i don’t have drama (besides men lol). :) Also, at my age women are more sexually confident and adventurous. I am not 45 yet though but i think i do okay for my age.
 

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my apartment is clean and soothing! no kids, no live in guy. i have disposable income and have the time and money to do fun things like trips, concerts, hiking, etc. Also any men i date get my undivided attention when i am with them as i don’t have drama (besides men lol). :) Also, at my age women are more sexually confident and adventurous. I am not 45 yet though but i think i do okay for my age.
Alright I'm sold, I'll pick you up friday at 7, lets go get some drinks ;)
 
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