"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Looks like I will be separating soon after 25 years of marriage. I'm 53, in shape, considered good looking, and the separation is my choice. A big reason behind the separation is that I did meet another woman, had a 27 month affair, and got dumped because I cheated on the OW and did not leave my wife soon enough for the OW. Thats two reasons really.

Anyway, I am going to move out and move to Florida. I have a pension, and some retirement accounts. I should be OK, but far from rich.

I am thinking of a POF account, and maybe hit the bars two nights a week. I also need to relax, find a meditation class, and get my head on straight.

I am somewhat anxious and sad about my failed marriage, and moving 1000 miles from my grown sons. A lot of the failure has to do with lack of sex, and then meeting the OW who has BPD, and then being sexually reawakened. I know it's a mid life crisis thing, but I want to be 25 and single again, with fewer responsibilities, and more women in my life.

Opinions? Tips? Anyone?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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nooneyouknow said:
...but I want to be 25 and single again, with fewer responsibilities, and more women in my life.

Opinions? Tips? Anyone?
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dont we all! you are in for a shock, think long and hard before you move so far from your sons.
whats the deal with Florida? have you really looked into this?
 
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betheman said:
dont we all! you are in for a shock, think long and hard before you move so far from your sons.
whats the deal with Florida? have you really looked into this?
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The deal with FL. is that I like FL., well some parts of it anyway. I have an ex GF that lives down there, and even though that relationship is over, I have seen a lot of the southern half of the state. I want to be able to swim outdoors, and I like the fat that in the areas I am looking, there is much less obesity than up north, probably because the people walk around with half the clothes you have to wear up north.

What do you mean by in for a shock?
 
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