Simple Tip on one-itis

[Alex_L]

Make it a rule too yourself, that you will not become emotionally attached with a woman / or have strong feelings for her... unless you are in a solid relationship with them.

There is No reason for you too get hung up over a girl who youve been out with on a few dates / been chatting too for "months" / or a girl who considers you as a friend only (all she is, is a potential opportunity too you, not the ONE and only one for you... I mean how the **** would you know? you haven't even started a full relationship with her! ) ... All it will do is destroy your chances with her and Control your life emotionally for months and make you feel like Sh*t, when you should be out having fun and taking control of your life.

The "Chase" should be Fun not an emotional strain on your life! and you should be in full control of the situation (emotions don't / shouldn't come intill you are in a relationship)... If you feel your thinking bout her too much and she starts too have the control it's time too go out there and do as many aproaches as you can,.. you'll soon forget bout her.

 

[ToughGuy]

Don't get emotional!!!

Hey Buddy!!
I really agree with you.
Cool Advice, really a pain relieving advise!!

Keep it up Buddy!!

Tuffy!!

 

[Bilogomja]

I'm in total agreement!

 

[LucidDreamer]

grrr, it's so hard sometimes...one girl i'm talking to is soooo sweet & visually stunning, absolutely stunning but i gotta stay detached. good post man.

 

[disciple]

Total agreement!!!

 

[saki]

WORD!!!!!!

 

[Iguana]

Originally posted by Alex_L
Make it a rule too yourself, that you will not become emotionally attached with a woman / or have strong feelings for her... unless you are in a solid relationship with them.

There is No reason for you too get hung up over a girl who youve been out with on a few dates / been chatting too for "months" / or a girl who considers you as a friend only (all she is, is a potential opportunity too you, not the ONE and only one for you... I mean how the **** would you know? you haven't even started a full relationship with her! ) ... All it will do is destroy your chances with her and Control your life emotionally for months and make you feel like Sh*t, when you should be out having fun and taking control of your life.

The "Chase" should be Fun not an emotional strain on your life! and you should be in full control of the situation (emotions don't / shouldn't come intill you are in a relationship)... If you feel your thinking bout her too much and she starts too have the control it's time too go out there and do as many aproaches as you can,.. you'll soon forget bout her.

Lol, I would say this is bible material.

It's such a short advise but so precise and helpful.

Iguana
Peace & Metal

 

[Matt Rogers]

lol. If only you had written this tip a few weeks ago. I made all of these mistakes-let my emotions take over and started to obsess about a girl such that I lost control and composure and started to act like a jerk and AFC in alteration.

 

[Fallen]

The most important thing in my opinion is to maintain control and stay cool in THE VERY BEGINNING and keep doing what you´ve been doing before you met her and don´t focus on her. Because once you get sucked in the oneitis-blackhole it´s often too late to re-gain control over your emotional self and things start running on autopilot. That´s what i experienced often. I personally believe that there is a PSR ( point of safe return in military terms ) and once this point is crossed - game over. Powers have switched and you´re toast. Maybe natural DJs have never experienced this before but if you´re a recovering nice guy ( like me ) that´s how things are. Don´t do it. Play by the rules FROM THE BEGINNING. Just my two cents

 

[Blinky]

Originally posted by Matt Rogers
lol. If only you had written this tip a few weeks ago. I made all of these mistakes-let my emotions take over and started to obsess about a girl such that I lost control and composure and started to act like a jerk and AFC in alteration.

Well I did write it over 2 months ago, it's just been brought too the top again.


Coming back too the topic,... I sat here and thought today about all the times i've had oneits for a girl, I must admit before I came on this site i'm been as AFC as it comes.. and I relised I must of spent 3 1/2 years of my life (23 years) ..being hung up and down bout some random girl, and trying whatever i could too get them.

And I thought what a ****ing waste of my time, and if I think back too how unhappy I was those times, makes me angry that I could of been seeing other girls, having a good time and being happy... wanting someone really bad is the ****tish feeling ever you know.


I know it's impossible too predict these situations and you never see them coming,.. I does help prevent it if your seeing more than 1 girl or have lots on the go cause then you have people too fall back on,.. but i'm sure for lots of people on here they may not have that all the time if any of the time.

If you want too get out of it quick you gotta use Anger think back too all those times before when you have had oneitis for someone , think of all the **** times and how crap it made u feel and how crap you feel now, you shud be pissed of at yourself for letting yourself become too attached too this one girl, think back too the old girls and how you feel bout them now? I bet you don't even hardly ever think bout them and they dont even cross your mind... you should be out Enjoying your life, so get angry with yourself and force yourself out of it.


Alex_L

 

[dearsappho]

Its simple tips like this that make this board somewhat of a lifeline sometimes...cheers m8.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

just because you say you should not get in to a oneitis does not mean you will not get in to it.

you can tell yourself not to all day but if you like the girl then you will get in to a oneitis if you keep seeing her and thinking about her.

 

[Kourt]

thankyou checkmate, ur absolutly correct

Alex thats the mentality I had with this one chic, but one-itis still ended up happeneing. One-itis isnt somthing u choose to have. It happens naturally with or without that mentality. It may help a bit though, but not in my case. Oh well : /

 

[Ricky]

You know what. It is so easy to get oneitis. I got it after a 3 year relationship broke up.

It is the hope that is within all of us that can prompt us to get oneitis so soon.

 

[AFK Protector]

Easy to get, hard to get rid of if possible at all. Bump.

 

[Fitch]

Good points made. However, its all talk bro. I'm in that situation right now...its kinda hard not to get strung up. Recently, i haven't been thinking about her - mainly because she pissed me off recently Lol

 

[GuitarOnFire7]

Anger is not the way to succeed. One cannot see ahead into the future as far if they lack self-control.

 

[dearsappho]

then get out there and get 2,3,4,5itis

 

[Desdinova]

BUMP

Make it a rule too yourself, that you will not become emotionally attached with a woman / or have strong feelings for her... unless you are in a solid relationship with them.

People on here seem to have forgotten that one-itis has nothing to do with an actual relationship. One-itis is a one-way street, and only exists when the couple don't share an exclusive relationship together.