"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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simple question - to text or not?

iliketennis

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met a girl today who knows me by professional reputation. i had never met her before but had smiled and waved from far away every time i was at her office. today i asked for her number with the 15 seconds that i had to talk to her. asked her her name and number and that was it, she gave it to me.

i called her tonight and she said she was getting in the shower, and asked if she could call me back, i said that's fine.

she gets out of the shower, texts me "what's up". i didn't answer, and then she said "do u text?"

what would you do?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Htienvu

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I personally prefer calling! so my answer probaly be "no, I rather call and talk" or don't reply to the text and just call her another time.
 

iliketennis

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a couple hours later she called and i didn't answer. i plan to call tomorrow
 

chance

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dont believe in that crap when people say dont text. texting never ruined my chances with girls. if they like you they dont care. as long as you dont "chat" over text. just say hey, how are you... listen im going <some place> on <some day> id like for you to come." or somethin like that. a quick set up over texting is harmful. too many guys talk bad things about texting. i actually like texting because i hate talking on the phone, especially to dumb hoes. unless they are my gf.
 

bilboteabaggins

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proves my point I made exactly in another thread, girls WANT to text these days and don't really enjoy calls all that much, at least in my experience

text away if you want and forget what others on this forum say, do what you feel is right ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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RedZone

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I prefer to text if I just meet a girl...I'll call when we are dating.
 

Diaforetikos

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Runner is right, way too much overanalyzing.

If you have solid game, you could get her into you no matter why method. And judging by this question, m assuming your game isn't too tight, so it doesn't really matter what you say.

But I do wish you the best of luck mate.
 
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