So I just started seeing a girl, going really well so far. We're not committed or have official labels as boyfriend girlfriend, so my question is, is it still ok to accept bootycalls and F*** other girls even though Im seeing this girl?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Simple or not so simple question?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
prairiedog24
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On this forum, there really isn't a difference between what you can do and what you should do. If you want advice on "how" to do it, you'll get it, but "should" isn't really the central theme around here.mtlwlu said:So I just started seeing a girl, going really well so far. We're not committed or have official labels as boyfriend girlfriend, so my question is, is it still ok to accept bootycalls and F*** other girls even though Im seeing this girl?
I would keep seeing other women until this girl asks to be exclusive. Then when she asks, you ask her how many of her exes does she still talk to, etc. If she says 'none' then I will agree to see her exclusively (if that's truly what I want). If she still talks to her exes then I tell her 'I think we'll just keep things the way they are" and she will get the hint. I also don't want a girl to be on any dating sites either if we are gonna have a relationship. I tell her 'you take down your profile, and i'll drop the other girls I'm seeing'.
You basically gotta wait for her to ask to be exclusive, then lay down your ground rules. If you do this it takes care of lots of problems that other people run into in the relationship. You cut that crap out right at the start.
You basically gotta wait for her to ask to be exclusive, then lay down your ground rules. If you do this it takes care of lots of problems that other people run into in the relationship. You cut that crap out right at the start.
YES YOU CAN!!! You guys are not exclusive, you can do whatever you want. Matter of fact, the more she sees you with other girls, the more she will want to fight for your attention!!. Think about it, if you saw other guys talking to her, would you not feel compel to try to get her attention?. Here is a secret: the more she tries to GET your attention the more ATTRACTION she will feels toward you. The point is not to show her that you are interested ( show LITTLE interest here an there) the point IS to make her become more intrested in you
Exactly.jayhood said:YES YOU CAN!!! You guys are not exclusive, you can do whatever you want.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I think you're asking the wrong people, lol. You should ask the girl if SHE's okay with it.
Pick Up is a very objective skillset, it's designed to get the girl and that is all, it doesn't really factor in ethics or relationship management.
I personally think you should let the girl know, it's the ethical thing to do. I believe in karma personally, what goes around comes around.
-Kevin
Pick Up is a very objective skillset, it's designed to get the girl and that is all, it doesn't really factor in ethics or relationship management.
I personally think you should let the girl know, it's the ethical thing to do. I believe in karma personally, what goes around comes around.
-Kevin