Simp question about friendly cashier

[corrector]

These questions don't put her on the spot, you make your intentions somewhat clear, and she can immediately start talking about her personal experiences and feelings.

This is the main issue is worried about putting someone on the spot. I want to engage with her in a natural type of way that is so normal that it could just be a throw-away. With me even any basic type of conversation or small talk could be challenging.

However, the tips that you and @Pierce.Manhammer have mentioned sound helpful in making these social ice-breakers sound so natural and under-the-radar that it should be the go-to default line if I freeze up.

Like you, I tend to freeze and block mentally. I may also dissociate and loose any visual information coming through my eyes for a few seconds. If this is true for you as well, you won't get further, since the blockades will only become more severe the more important she becomes. Abundance probably helps.

Abundance with regular (ie women who are not on OF) women is a luxury so it's not an option. I don't have any women in my life even on a family level (ie there are no female cousins I'm close to, have no sisters, not close to any Aunt, or single female friends, etc....). It was so bad at one point I used to grope mannequins.

That being said, I did see some short-lived benefit when I used pheromones back in 2011 and 2013. I don't use those anymore.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

The only wasted shot is the one you don’t take.